Boyfriend wont cry?

Question

ok me and my boyfriend were disscussing crying he is a pretty cold person and says he dosent cry he works with the elderly and they pass away somtimes and its like he dosent even care and he has tyaken care of them for awhile or in his family when somthing tragic happens its like he dosent care i know he dose he can express verbally but cant cry is this normal is it like real men dont cry cause he said he wouldnt even do it byhimself cause he would feel weird about it its like taboo dose anyone know someone like this why is this

Answer 1

This is common among men I can't remember the last time I cried, its just not the way I release my feelings also when your are around tragic situations allot you learn how to shut it off so that you can help others with the tragedy in a calm logical yet compassionate way

Answer 2

Everyones different. Alot of people are like this, i cant cry when something sad happens either. If my parents passed i wouldnt shead a tear. Guys arent as emotional as women typically. Dont worry about it, hes probably feeling sad for the person just not expressing it. Think of it this way, when some one dies they are going to a better place, no more pain, no more worries.

Answer 3

It isn't just him, and it isn't just guys. And unless he is in fact a cold person, please don't think this of him just because he doesn't cry.

I too, grew up in retirement care (since I was 5 volunteering, and since I was 15 working). I have seen many of my friends, young and old die. I have developed a twisted sense of humor to deal with this. Most people in the medical field do.

My mother has been pestering me since I was about seven to see a therapist because I don't cry. I haven't. And I'm no worse off for it. I'm happy, having a wonderful life. It's just something I never did.

I wouldn't worry about him too much. Different people have different ways of dealing with things. It may be just as strange to him that people do cry, as it is to you that he doesn't.

Hope this was of help to you, please feel free to contact me via email if you have any questions or would like to chat.

Answer 4

well - you might need to kick it out of him...lol.
actually, most guys are like that until they wake up and realize that there is absolutely nothing wrong with crying. i was pretty cold too, until i had one of those moments when i realized that was not the way i wanted to live my life.
actually - to be quite honest, there is something dangerous about not showing proper emotion. living in a bubble like that will not work. and one day, and it will happen sooner or later, the bubble will burst - and there will be nowhere to turn - unless he makes the decision to swallow his pride and cry when he needs to.

and if i offended anyone by that, forgive me. cold feelings in a person really gets my goat - i've dealt with way to many of them - thats probably why i have no desire to be one.

Answer 5

Hit him hard enough and he will cry. j/k.

A lot of men don't cry because they don't want to show weakness, especially in front of a woman who looks up to them. Often the woman will respect the man more for showing emotions, but men don't always realize this. Also, if he is working with seniors, and sees a lot of death, not crying or showing emotion could be a defense mechanism for him. being around that much death can be very hard on a persons emotions, and osmetimes the only way to deal with that, in his chosen profession, is to not let yourself feel anything at all.

This is his choice, as damaging as it may be. If he is looking for help with this, a counsellor to help him deal with his emotions would probably help him greatly. If he chooses not to ask for help, you may have to deal with his choices or move on.

Answer 6

Maybe he'd seen too many passing and that it doesn't make him sad. Some guys are tough on the outside but not on the inside. I'm sure he still has a heart (and cries inside).

Answer 7

My husband doesn't cry. His mother committed suicide on Christmas Day when he was a kid, and I think that has something to do with it. I've been with him for 15 years, and I have never ever seen him cry, even when his father and grandmother died or when our children were born.

Answer 8

You don't have to cry to be a sensitive person. He seems to me more of a thoughtful person who seems to grieve without the open displays of grief. There is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 9

Some guys are like that. because they were taought to be that way. My guy is ultra-sensetive and crys quite a bit. We need a happy medium.

Answer 10

yeah i know some guys who just won't cry when tragic things happen. i think they just deal with it in different ways or cry on their own.