Am I wrong for feeling this way?
My boyfriend smoked pot when I met him. I also smoked awhile ago when I met him(about 3 years ago). I only smoked for about 3 months and then quit completely. It has been 3 years of me and my bf being together and I can't stand him smoking anymore. When I smoked I use to do it for fun. He says he smokes so he is calm and can just chill. He does smoke like 3 times a day. but only alittle at a time just to calm him down. I just feel like he should not have to smoke when I hang out with him. I try to make him feel comfortable and just feel like I don't make him feel good enough and he needs a drug. When I went over his house last night, after a hour of me being there he asked me to drive him to get some weed. I was only staying for 3 hours. We fought about it, He said he just wanted to be relaxed while I was there....wtf, he was not smoking when he was alone.. I came there to make him feel better. we only chill like twice a week.
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We ended up breaking up. Am I wrong for flipping out over him smoking? I just can't take the smell..him acting high and stupid...What if we had kids and they saw him smoking.. I don't know..
2007-03-25 16:01:48 · 7 answers · asked by CrazyChic86 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You aren't wrong, but you two were done anyway. It was time to move on, and it was either the pot or something else./ You learned something for your next relationship..be happy!
2007-04-02 08:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you do me a huge favor?! Can you give yourself a nice pat on the back? I used to party as a teen, so I'm not some stuck up snob. I know exactly where you're coming from. Any drug is no longer for fun when it is an everyday thing and a habit that is hard to quit. You were right to break up with him. You've grown as a person and he has not. In fact, it appears that he won't quit. He is apparently making no effort what so ever to stop. Girl, don't let his habit make you have to live with a habit! You did good. Smart thinking! Especially about the kids! I mean, WOW! Do you know how good that is that you've thought ahead like that? I don't know you, but I'm proud of you. WAY TO GO!!!
2007-04-02 00:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by starbucks4jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't wrong. You changed and the least he could have done was respect that and not do it around you. It's not like you told him to quit. It sounds like there was a maturity factor that was lacking on his part.
Post Script:
As little known a fact as it is, drug addiction is present as an inherited genetic marker, so you are correct in considering the affect on any children in this situation.
2007-04-02 18:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please take this seriously. I have read your other questions and you need to get away from this abusive, low life pot head. You are young & I'm sure very eligible to many other guys worth having. You have got to get away from him, the sooner the better. Please tell someone in your family or close friends what is going on with this guy & call the cops if he continues to harrass you. Change your phone no.'s, stay with someone that he won't know where to find you. If you keep falling into his traps, you won't be worth a crap for any other guy. You need to start to heal from this so please reach out to someone before he breaks a bone, stabs or shoots you so no one else can have you. Have you heard of OJ Simpson killing his wife? That's because he thought of her as a piece of property & didn't want anyone else to have her & killed her by almost cutting her head off. Please don't let this happen to you.
2007-03-27 21:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were not wrong. The excuse your ex gave you for smoking is one of the factors that lead to problems with other drugs. Short-term while he is high it helps him to feel relaxed but long-term it will only intensify his anxiety.
2007-04-02 21:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by maebklyn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were correct for doing that. This thing will probably get worse, the drug more worse, he'll probably get depressed (thus making you depressed). You may have gotten to a point that you may have commited suicide.
2007-04-02 21:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hooray for you! Now you can move on.
2007-04-02 22:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Cambrianna S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋