I have been seeing a gril for about six months and am absolutey in love with her, and from what I can tell she is with me too. The problem is right now we live 300 miles apart. We completely trust one another and are happy when we talk and see each other. But recently she told me that we should cool down for a while because she has a lot going on in her life right now and doesn't really have time for someone. I asked her why we can't just stay together and let me help her and be supportive of her through this hard time, and she just said she wants to deal with it on her own. Now she still wants to be friends and still tells me she loves me when we talk and that when this gets better we can try again. But neither of us know how long this "cool down" period is going to last. Should I wait for her? We are very happy together and I see a bright future for us after this. Or am I just setting myself up to get hurt again?
2007-03-25 15:54:42 · 10 answers · asked by Richard 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should ask her what the conditions are within the "cool down" period...if she wants to see other people, then i wouldnt wait for her...if she says she only wants you or nobody right now...then it might be a nice thing to wait...but 300 miles away with temptation just around the corner is pretty rough...
Just be careful man, she is leaving you hangin and you dont know what to expect next...be ready for anything!
2007-03-25 16:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by chazy30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships have flaws and ups and downs and there are ways to deal with it, so she wanted to take a break and get through whatever problems she is having before she can focus on a relationship, maybe that way she can focus on you or whoever she decideds she wants to date. Be friends with her and support her for whatever she is allowing you to, since she did not give specifics on a cool down date then you have to take it one day at a time and see what happens, if she feels that she is still not ready to pursue a relationship then maybe you can just be friends with her and find you someone else to be more then friends with. If you can not wait any longer then just move on and tell her that you would like to be friends with her but you feel the break is to long and you would like to move on. It will be hard to reguardless of what happens both parties have to accept it.
2007-03-25 23:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I think if you trust her enough and love her enough, you should wait. This has happened to me before. My life was so chaotic and things were happening in my family I just felt like I couldn't trust or love anybody but I knew that I loved my boyfriend, but being in a relationship with him at the time would only make him suffer through my highs and lows as well...and I didn't want him to go through that. It's an inner-self thing that's going on with her, and once she feels strong enough inside again, she'll be ready for things to get back to normal.
2007-03-25 23:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love her, you will wait. Sooner or later you will know the real reason, there are real reasons for what's happening to both of you right now. Your gf's alibi is not very convincing. Make your instincts and doubts work this time. I am not sayng that you should doubt the decision of your gf, but watch and think things over.
2007-03-25 23:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by dale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want me to mess up the pretty picture that you two have painted, but yu guys move away from each other and then she says she needs to cool down! UMM...guess what that translates to: DON'T WAIT FOR ME! Let her go! You seem like a great guy!
2007-03-25 23:04:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds pretty positive to me. Don't give up hope. Hang in there. Let her know how you feel. Distance means nothing in matters of love. You aren't even half a day away from each other. GET out there!
She would appreciate it more than you know. PLUS..she has no idea how you feel.
2007-03-25 23:00:02 · answer #6 · answered by pitch 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the worst thing a guy could do is "miss the oppurtunity", if u think she is the right one for you then sure, the best thing you could do is have patience and let her have her space
2007-03-25 23:00:13 · answer #7 · answered by taty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO one can be trusted, I am glad ur suffering, I hope it continues forever!!!!! You people shall all suffer!!!!
2007-03-25 23:00:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Wait for her
2007-03-25 23:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in with her, if your not around her, cheatings un aviodable.
2007-03-25 22:58:46 · answer #10 · answered by keithr2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋