Well, yeah, alot of stuff is goin on right now. See im here in Chile as a foreign exchange student, ive been here about 7 months without getting homesick, but right now my b-day is coming up, and its the first bday of mine away from my family. On top of that the girl back in the US who i really like is starting to forget about me, when she told me she wouldnt. On top of that, i play rugby, something that i really like to do, well, today was our 1st game, but i couldnt play, ive had a hurt knee for the past 2 weeks and i had to stand and watch everyone do what i had wanted and needed more than anyone, because physical activity is what clears my mind better than anything, but i cant do it. My host family is also starting to get on my nerves, just things that bug me about them. What can i do? How do i get happy?
2007-03-25 15:52:02 · 23 answers · asked by The quiet one 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
come home
2007-03-25 15:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by braider954 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Realize that somewhere, someone else has it worse than you do! You just have to think of the good things in your life. Talk to your family over the phone on your b-day, maybe you can talk and have a phone party! I know it's tough but stick in there! And for that girl? If she's going to forget about you then forget about her. I mean she probably didn't forget about you, it's just you're all the way over in Chile.. how do you expect to have a relationship? No offense. There's not really a special way to get happy. Happy is not something you can just get. It's up to you to decide what happiness is and how you're going to let in enter your life. Live your life and stop worrying about the little things. Yeah.. so you can't play rugby because you have a hurt knee? Well.. some people can't even walk because they are paralyzed, so just be thankful you can. Good luck and feel better.
2007-03-25 16:04:45 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
That F...is stupid, just disregard him.
Well, being a foreign student, I exactly understand what you are going through. I did not feel homesick first because I was excited about the place and only in Christmas, when everything shuts down and we have a long break with cold weather-which is diffrent from my sunny country- I started to be depressed. I felt I hated myself and I missed home...I had, like you, a period of lack of interest, for u say you could not play rugby...I could not do my favored things. But let me tell you something. You are not necessarily depressed in the big meaning of the word. What I suggest is that you do not take any medicine and just see a school therapist if necessary, just to talk. You are not obliged to. You can do it yourself am sure. Especially do not insulate yourself from others. You said that the girl you like is slipping away... Maybe you just see that because in your current psychological status and mood, you are prone to think negative. You are young and vigorous!!! This is just a cloud that gonna go, believe me. All my best wishes
good luck
2007-03-25 16:05:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your coach about how you're feeling. He should be a trusted adult who cares about his team and especially if you really can't talk to your host family. What about the school counselor? Can you have your family celebrate with you through a webcam or send a video b-day card to cheer you up? I know it's not the same as in person, but a reminder of love is always a good thing. Girlfriends come and go--don't worry about her. Focus on your life in Chile and have your classmates friends take you out and show you what a good time is in Chile! If physical activity helps you, can you go to a gym and work out your unhappiness? Good luck and happy birthday!
2007-03-25 16:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by nancydeanna 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eat some chocolate, just walk and breath fresh air, feel all the energy you have inside and all the good new things you have learned. Very few persons have the chance to see a different world and people. think about the nice things you will share once you get back. the girs forgot about you? maybe that's not so bad..... there are many more to come, and they will be thrilled to meet a guy with a different perspective of the world, more cosmopolitan then others. the hosts are nice folks I guess, maybe you're just overall frustrated and that's what bothers you. watch some funny movies, read a good book and try to talk to some friend who's near you. for your b-day treat yourself with a special dinner or food you love, get a nice present for yourself. good luck and happy birthday
2007-03-25 16:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop trying to control everything around you man! go with the flow! remember- you can't control the things around you, only your reaction to them. Yes.. all those things are "BUMMERS" but nothing to get depressed about. Let things go for a while and ENJOY the world around you- go see something totally new, or enjoy being alone for a while in an upbeat place like a really good restaurant or watch a sporting event that your not so emotionally involved in- GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK. And just a little wisdom i learned on my journey in life.... don't drink alcohol when your depressed or agitated. Alcohol is a depressant and will only make your thoughts depressed and dark. Happy Birthday- go try something new!
2007-03-25 16:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by SALYOFCALI 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One was it to tell yourself that this is a life long learning experience. Take it all in. Learn from your mistakes and grow from them. Hate to tell you, but long term relationships usually don't work. As for your time in Chile, it's not forever. You will be coming home soon. That should make you feel better, hopefully. Keep your chin up. You are having an experience that not a lot of people get the chance to have. You should be honored. Hate to tell you, but you sound kinda spoiled. All you are doing is thinking about yourself. You need to realize that you have a nice life. I have a disease called genetic pancreatitis. There is no cure. I'm 27 and told I will die before I'm 40. That's something to be depressed about, but I'm not. At least I try not to be. Not only for myself, but for others. I've I'm depressed then others will be. I got to do it for others, and so do you. I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just laying the cards down for you. Take this as advice, and not as being mean.
2007-03-25 16:00:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Hawk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do something that makes you laugh (watch a sitcom), think of happy thoughts (when your friend got caught for stealing underpants at walmart), if that doesn't work do something that will take your mind off of everything, besides drugs. Or straight up just make new friends, but i know its hard starting over.
i play rugby too, 7 aside.
first 2 scrimmages injured my wrist, my right ring finger is swollen can hardly bend or extend, and my neck is pretty soar from the scrums i was in. but i still can bring it 100%.
hope that makes you a little happy
2007-03-25 23:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by justin c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax...it is understandable that your host fam is getting on your nerves. Everything may seem to fall apart or anything and everything is easily getting you irritated. Just think, it wont be long till you get back out doing physical activity. Take a few moments to yourself when your mind goes into negative thinking mode or members of the host family are annoying you ..Hopefully you are able to just take a stroll outside, or even just sit outside.
2007-03-25 16:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by kidkuala25 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Life can be hard, huh? Well you can only get un-depressed by your own choice. You have to think of things your grateful for. I hate trying to do that but it really works. Maybe you should tell someone close. Sometimes you should write a letter to someone but not actually send it. DO NOT GET DRUNK OR SMOKE CRAP!! IT MAKES LIFE CRAPPIER!!
Your girl is only human it's hard to have a long distance relationship. Think about how she feels...probably really lonely. right? or no?? hmmm.. well w/e good luck!!
2007-03-25 16:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Krystle o 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
getting happy means feeling happy, i believe. Well, reading what had happened to you does make me feel sorry too... There's no reason to feel depressed because there's nothing left for you to change. you can't just fly back to your family and have your birthday, or force that girl to say how much she loves you, or cure the hurt of your knee or bla bla bla....so, just let things flow the way it is going to flow. just have faith in God, that he knows what he is doing, that maybe this is just the test to your patience or perseverance......we don't know what He is up to, do we?
Well, that's all i can say, may Lord bless you, amen.
2007-03-25 15:57:33 · answer #11 · answered by Isabel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋