Do you believe this is wrong?

Question

Before my Great-Grandmother passed away last July, my family would get together every Holiday and once a year we would also have a family reunion. Well since she passed away we have not met for any of these holiday’s and I think we are not even having our family reunion. I don’t get to see all of my family at one time except for those holiday’s b/c there r prolly around 90 people in my family so you don’t see us n one place at once. I miss the times we got to gather. Do you think they r just trying to forget about my Great-Grandmother? Or was she the one holding the family together? Do you think we should still have the same traditions? Or is it good that we changed them?

i am only 15 so my family doesn't really listen to me that much.

Answer 1

Number one, everyone is probably still pretty much grieving your GGM.
But that is no excuse for dropping the reins of Tradition! You need to speak up, but since you are probably a younger member of the family, be careful how you choose your words here. You don't want to anger anyone, that would get you nowhere!

Perhaps you could ask that there be a "Family Meeting" to see if there is an interest in electing someone to pick up where GGM left off, if nothing else than to honor her memory.

See how that works! Good Luck!

Answer 2

I have seen this all the time in a lot of families. No they are not tiring to forget about her, younger generations are just getting away from that tradition. The older generations are/were all about the family and spending time together. Sadly, now days people often get busy and caught up in work and other everyday things, that we don't take the time to have family get together/reunions. When my grandparents were alive we would have one every year, but since they have passed away, I don't even see my parents siblings other than at funerals. The same thing happened to my husbands family. I think that we, the younger generations start putting our feet down and set things back on track. After all if you don't have family, you don't have anything. Try talking to your parents and tell them how you feel. Just sit them down in a quiet place where there are minimum distractions so they will have to pay attention to you. Try and help them remember how much fun they had when the whole family was together. Hope this helps. Good Luck.

Answer 3

The same thing happened in my family.(On one side) It's up to the younger generations to keep up these traditions. You lost the family matriarch, someone needs to step up to the plate! I know on one side of our family it was hard. My great-grandmother was 102 when she died, she had 9 children. She was totally the glue there. An amazing woman. My mother and I are discussing planning a reunion with that side since nobody else has stepped up.

We attend other reunions in the summer. My husband and kids and I always have a blast. It's great for me to talk to the older family members (as they age, they care less and tell you more....and I LOVE it-nothing like family stories) Our kids love meeting distant cousins. I think it helps us all feel more connected.

Good luck - I hope you find a way to keep this wonderful tradition going.

Answer 4

Sometimes as people grow older, things such as a death in the family can make them lose sight of what is really important. People grow apart too....There are i think 17 or 18 kids on my dad's side of the family, we used to have all kinds of holidays together and visit eachother ALL the time. Eventually we grew apart. People get wrapped up in whatever is going to with their lives at the moment. Dont take it personally, I know sometimes it feels bad. Tell them how you feel, that's all you can do. I'm sure many families out there would love to have reunions and such, sometimes it's hard to cope when someone special is no longer in the mix as well. I suggest you just try to keep in touch with everyone as much as you can. Family reunions might not happen as often but if you keep in touch, email, write, call, visit.....you won't miss out on so much.

Answer 5

Your great-grandmother was the glue that held your family together. Now that she's gone families (aunts, uncles, cousins) have other places to be & things to do. Things change over the years with families & right now you're going through the period where things are changing.
Same thing happened when my great-grandma died a few years ago & no matter how hard my grandma tried to keep the family together it just didn't work because her kids & grandkids don't like sharing her with a lot of "distant" relatives during major holidays.

Answer 6

You should still have the same family traditions. Just because on person passes, doesn't mean you skip everything. Goodness, I'm assuming since she was a great grandmother, she had to have been up in her years. Ask the family members you are close to that you want their help in getting the traditions started back up again.

Answer 7

If there were that many people at your family reunions it is doubtful that they all came just to satisfy your GGM. It is also doubtful that they are trying to forget her.
It is probably alot of work to try and get everyone together, probably a full-time job. I am sure that there are other family members who want to get together also. It may be up to you to take the responsibility of getting the ball rolling. There will probably others willing to help once you take the lead.
Maybe an annual event is too frequent, consider every 4 years, using presidential election years so that no one will forget which year you will meet.

Best wishes!

Answer 8

No. It's not good that your family changed them. You should talk to them about it. Family is important and just because your grandmother isn't there anymore doesn't mean you should stop having reunions. Getting together will allow her to be remembered and what is important; that family is always there for you. Talk to your family about having a reunion.

Answer 9

Sounds kind of like when my grandpa and grandma separated. But it sounds like she was the one holding the family together. I do not see why they would still be grieving...in every family there is one or two people who hold the family together it is like that with mine. With my family it was my grandma she made she we did everything a certain way and met for all the holidays at her house. I think it is on the lines of wrong...since now everyone doesn't get to see everyone. Have you expressed to them how you feel about it...how you miss how it use to be?

Answer 10

Your Great grandmother was the connection. So they all came together for her but you can start it all over just talk to your parents and tell them how you feel and see if they can help you do the family reunion tell that your great grandmother would want them to continue to meet and be together for different occasions.