My girlfriend is pregnant and we've had discussions about a post pregnancy family situation. She currently works and I am a full time student. I proposed that I could study from home and care for our baby, clean the house, cook, laundry and run errands while she worked. What do you guys think of that?
2007-03-25 15:39:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Good for you to consider this route!
My husband and I have a six-month old boy. While I was pregnant we decided that since I have a career that I love and he just had a job that he hated, maybe he should take time off rather then me to care for our baby. I went back to work when baby was five weeks and daddy stayed home.
It's been wonderful and I'm so proud of my husband. Not many fathers spend that much time with their kids, he spends more time with him than I do!
He's a great dad and I think that any man who stays at home, even if for a short while, with their kids will have a better relationship with them over the years.
I hope you do it!
Don't promise your girlfriend the world if you can't deliver, though. If you're not exactly the neatest guy now, it's nlikey that you will change overnight and become a great housekeeper so be honest about what you think will get done. If you know you're not going to be cleaning the bathroom, tell her so that it doesn't become a source of tension later on. As long as the house is respectably clean, it doesn't always have to be perfect. She'll appreciate the fact that you're honest!
Good luck and congratulations on the baby!
2007-03-25 16:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by ChefMel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home dads are becoming more and more prevalent in today's society.
I think that it is a good solution for all of you.
You will be still pursuing your education, which is great.
You will be taking care of your child without worrying about placing him or her in day care, which is great.
You will be doing housework, God bless you I do not see one thing wrong with this plan at all.
This sounds like it will work wonderfully for all involved, as long as you and your girlfriend do not run into any problems with the fact that she will be earning the income and you will be at home. Many men find it difficult if their girlfriends or wives make more money than them.
This sounds like the perfect solution for all of you and then once you finish your schooling you can renegotiate what you next steps will be.
Congratulations to you and your girlfriend, children are incredibly wonderful.
Thank you for being a stand up guy and finding a great solution for your new family. If there were more young people who lived their lives the way you have chosen to the world would be a much better place.
God bless you and yours.
2007-03-25 16:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that any stay at home parent is good. It doesn't matter whether it is the mom or dad, a new born would benefit from staying home with a parent. It would also save you the cost of child care, which for a new born is expensive. Could you still go to school? If you take classes while she is home, it would be wonderful. You could finish your degree and be able to spend time with your baby.
2007-03-25 16:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by sllcone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 08:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by unck 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off yes and no at first it will be ok now depending on what your spouse does for work maybe you will never have to I don't know the situation but there are certian things to consider as the child gets older it's nice to think that society doesn't still have stereotypes and things but we do unforunate but true and unless your spouse is a millionare as the child gets older especially if it's a boy they may have issues with it think of father son day at school and all the kids proud of thier dads and what they do wanting to be just like them but you child doesn't know what you do cause you don't have a job it's a touchy subject women will commend you for it and men willbe divided cause some will say a man needs to work but my opinion is if you don't have to work that's awesome i wish i didn't have to
2007-03-25 15:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Chado D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everything changes when you have a baby and you just have to decide what is going to work best for your family just know that taking care of a baby is like working 2 full time jobs so its very exhausting but extremely rewarding you just have to have ALOT of patience
2007-03-25 15:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My friend's brother in law is going to do just that. He makes a bit more money than she does but her benefits are much better than his. With 4 kids, they need the benefits more than the $$ so he is planning to stay home with the new baby. He is very hands on with the baby. I think it is great!
2007-03-25 15:47:44 · answer #7 · answered by VMSS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a great idea. There are alot of fathers out there that don't help at all, it's all left up to the mother, even if she still works full-time.
2007-03-25 15:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds great!
your baby will have a parent who loves and care for them and isn't over stressed with a daycare full of other children.
It will require some adjustments on what you can expect to accomplish while caring for your child but it IS possible to be successful taking care of your baby this way.
women have been doing it forever.
Good luck!!
2007-03-25 15:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by stonechic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HI,
I think its great. If you are prepared to help by staying home and looking after your little one, you should be commended.
A lot of guys out there would not even consider it! Well Done!
2007-03-25 15:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋