Ok. I have a boyfriend whom I believe he love me. We have an excellent relationship, or so I would like to think. We are together about a year and 3month. we had ups and down. We travel together and we see each other very often, well for the last few weeks things were not going so well. We fight all the time he said mean stuff, then apologies later. We had issue about him and his first love, his ex girlfriend. When we met, he told me she was demanding, unappreciated and put him down always. That was the reason no longer together. Nevertheless, through our relationship I told him he cannot talk to her as I want fair chance with him. That he should forget his past or go back to it but I did not want to here anything about her. We were not talking last week. Last night he comes over my house and we enjoyed seeing each other. Yet he mentions to me that he mastered early that week twice thinking of doing e-x. Of cause I was hurt, somehow
2007-03-25 15:30:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
He manages to make me understand. Then later that night we made love, so I asked him if he thought of his ex and he said yes twice. I know if I were reading this from someone else I would be shock. Is difficulty when you are the one dealing with these issues? So I refuse to talk to him, he tried to talk to me but I did not say a word. Finally the morning comes he tried to wake me up but I refuse to talk to him and simply I told him to leave. He did.
That night before all this messes he gave me a gift package, weekend gate a way from the city including massage, skis, for both of us.
This morning I got an e-mail from him saying he loves me and I should understand him! he wants to be with me, he wants to be loyalty to me and our relationship, he wishes I could just trust him and love him unconditional, regards of what happen that he needs me and he Love me very much and he does not want to be with his ex?
Please help is this ever happened to anybody? Am I being not supportive
2007-03-25 15:31:25 · update #1
You need to stop being SOOOOO SUPPORTIVE! Have you read this to yourself? Giving A gift: The number one thing a man does after he has cheated or thought about cheating~
How can he tell you such things if he loves you and if she did him so bad why is she still a topic. Check your man! I would've already let the scrub go, but since you haven't check him and if he isn't checkable then ask the check and leave!
2007-03-25 15:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sounds like you have a lot going on!! I hate to break the news to you but this guy doesn't love you. He's at the point where you're relationship is getting into a routine and it's not as great as it used to be when you were first together. No one should be thinking about their ex like that in any relationship and they especially shouldn't tell you all of those things. That's a deliberate action to hurt you and you shouldn't fall for it. He's one of those guys who's able to hurt you and do all this stuff and then apologize and be all sweet cause he knows he can get away with it. Trust me I was one of those girls who always forgave cause I thought he loved me and i loved him. But i got very very hurt in the end and it wasn't worth it. So you should probably leave this guy before that happens to you. i know it's hard with such a long history but no one deserves to be treated like that or used in such a way. It's just not right and you deserve a lot better than that. Let him go back to his ex. eventually someone will do to him as he's done to you
2007-03-25 15:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that sometimes it is best not to know about our boyfriends/girlfriends past relationships. I also think that your bf is playing on both sides of the fence. If he truly loves and wants you, he will forget about his ex and put more of his energy into making you happy. And why he would tell you that he masturbated while thinking about his ex is beyond me! Is he trying to make you jealous? That is immature bulls--t to me! He has some growing up to do.
Sit down and talk with him very seriously about your future and whether he really wants to keep you or not. Come to an understanding and see if he can keep his promises. If not, you need to move on and find someone who is willing to treat you with respect.
2007-03-25 15:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I would have to tell him to take his X on this weekend getaway and make sure he doesn't want to be with her. Don't let yourself be played. And don't let yourself be in a relationship with someone who says mean stuff to you just because he is mad and feeling like being immature. The idea of trust is a joke. He wants your trust but he doesn't deserve it. A year and 3 months is not that long of a time. Get out before you get bitter and take out everything he is going on your future relationships.
2007-03-25 15:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither confusing or stupid...you are dealing with a controlling personality....he gets in your head girl and messes with it. Get some time away from him. Call up some gf or cousins you havent seen in a while and have a girls day out. He keeps you second guessing yourself so that he can do whatever he pleases. He makes it sound like he is always thinking about you right? but you always have to follow it up with these long explanations where he "convinces" you right? RUN...dont walk. get out of it now.
2007-03-25 16:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetserenity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So continue to be supportive until one weekend you all get in a fight and he knocks her up! Or abandon ship before you end up like some talk show reject. This man sounds emotionally abusive and manipulative. Maybe he really wants a woman who treats him like s*it. So try being her for awhile. Or stay true to yourself and find a man who "dreams" about YOU!
2007-03-25 16:25:49 · answer #6 · answered by galixcysmagic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was truly in love with you, and only you, he would think only of you when he made love to you. He is imagining being unfaithful,so he truly IS being unfaithful. If you give him a third chance to be true, you will be demeaning yourself. I say, show respectt for yourself, and don't allow him to hurt you anymore. You must hold your companion to a higher standard than that. We of genuine character always hold ourselves to higher standards than we hold others to. Do not let him have anymore chances, because he already has cheated on you emotionally and mentally. it will only be a matter of time until he does physically. I wish you luck, and Blessed Be.
2007-03-25 15:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by foreverautumn_1687 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is playing you like a deck of cards. He is manipulating you and when he knows hes gone too far he does a little gesture to get you back. He is going to make your life a living hell. You have two choices: get out of it now.. of face years of disapointment and sadness. You shouldnt have to comprimse like this! Look how he is making you feel like its your fault! OPEN YOUR EYES!
2007-03-25 15:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by la428282 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's thinking of his ex while self-loving, tells you this bit of information, and also informs you that he though of her while having sex with you...you see where I'm getting at. He's not over her.
My advice it to end the relationship.
2007-03-25 15:56:40 · answer #9 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves you but that was his first love but he loves u more - i can tell. Just forget about her and try to live ur life without her. If u cant talk to him. Tell him how ya feel
2007-03-25 15:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by s k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋