And seriously feel like they are trapped inside a meaningless relationship?
I am single and I cannot even stand to be around the same girl all the time, no matter who it is!
I think what happens is you eliminate your inner person when getting involved in a relationship with someone, it is like you have now been assigned a role to play the rest of your life and your true self dies.
2007-03-25 15:06:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no
thats not always the case
2007-03-25 15:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there Dan T, I think that it is quite possible for alot of married people to become tired of each other. Sometimes people can grow apart. However, I do not think that it is true that people in a relationship can have their inner person eliminated; some people thrive in relationships. Some actually do find their 'soul mate.' The fact that you cannot stand to be around the same girl all the time, simply means that you have not yet found that special person; you will know when you meet her. When two people fall in love, they find that they cannot be without each other. The majority of relationships can be difficult to maintain, whether they are in a marriage, father/son, mother/ daughter etc..
Marriage is an ultimate commitment, which, nowadays, is not taken very seriously. Divorce is quite easy, therefore, people don't make an effort to make the marriage work.
You could be one of those who purely prefers to be single, and that is ok aswell.
All the best :o)
2007-03-25 23:46:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think most married people feel that way. Marriage isn't for everyone...and a lot of those who get married choose the wrong mate, or they grow apart, which can lead to boredom and isolation and loss of one's self.
Those that I know who are truly enthralled with each other still after 5, 10, 15, and even 40 years of marriage give the same advice.....be open to new experiences with your mate...inside and outside the bedroom. Communication is the key ingredient followed by respect for your mate.
Not all marriages end in divorce...its all in how you treat one another and how you keep the home fires burning. Every one of us as human beings have multiple "hats" that we wear everyday of our lives. Its called living. Those that are "playing a role" are not being true to themselves or their mate to begin with---a loving relationship is not a stage for an actor. Honesty should be the foundation of any relationship if that relationship is to last.
Sounds like you are a long way off from even mentioning the words marriage and commitment...you first need to figure out why you don't like being around girls....do you just use them for your own pleasure? Are you 100% certain of your sexual orientation?
2007-03-25 22:21:04 · answer #3 · answered by j05gemini 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have been happily married to the same man for 5 1/2years. We have been together for 6 1/2. We are happily married with 2 children and a baby on the way!! You are still your own person when married you are just sharing your self and feelings with someone else and also the love that you have for eachother. It just takes men a lot longer time to adjust and mature so you probably have years to adjust yet!!!
2007-03-25 22:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by mother of 3 angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's a pretty strong feeling you've got there, and it's definitely something to think about. I think that there's always going to be the times when a married couple get tired of each other just because they're always together, but if it's true love, then they'll never stop loving each other. I mean, you always love your family no matter what, right? It's kinda like that.
2007-03-25 22:11:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simple answer no! If you need a piece of paper to secure a relationship. Then, Do not marry; infatuation has a most short lifespan. Marriage stems from the Soul not a cheque book.
2007-03-25 22:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by jrjrjr_jr3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so ! marriage is a beautiful binding between two people. Take it as an investment - As more it gets older(matures), more valuable it becomes .. it keeps two people together in their sad and happy times instead of just "one time deal" over a drink or in a bar. its a commitment . Make sure you have strong foundation for a relationship before u get into marriage ! trust , respect and love , if u have these 3 elements, you will never get tired and your love will grow!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-25 22:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Broken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I do feel like that. But there are others when I am glad to have a strong person to support me in trouble times. I love my husband. We fight. I daydream about being single but I like the fact that I am married and have a partner to love and support me. I feel sometimes like he doesn't know who I am. He doesn't know what I am passionate about etc because I am just at home and he works.
2007-03-25 22:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't met the right person and are definitely not ready for marriage. If its right, you don't get tired of that person. Love changes to something super special that you simply can't understand at this time in your life.
2007-03-25 23:50:32 · answer #9 · answered by Radio Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not tired, but it is sometimes hard to keep the passion going. I make my marriage survive by indulging in the occasional extra-curricular activity.
2007-03-26 00:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by Bob Danvers-Walker 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is a lot of responsibility
and yes you might get tired of that person
but you have to remember they are probably
tired of your crap too.
and if you are married and have kids
divorce is like suicide
it is a permanent solution
for temporary problems
it does not solve all your problems
it creates alot of new ones
2007-03-26 00:10:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋