I have a friend who, about a year ago, got out of a 6 year relationship. The girl really broke his heart, and now a year later she's been calling him telling him she wants him in her life again, that she misses him, but only as a friend. This is really getting to him, and he feels slightly insulted that she's so emotionally disconnected to the fact that she broke his heart. He's tried to date, but his past with her keeps filtering into his new relationships, and doesnt allow him to function in a new romantic scenario. he insists that he's no longer in love with her, but that theres a connection there that is causing him pain. he doesnt want her back, but he can't really function now as he is either. I really dont know what to say to him. what is good advice i can give, that wont make me sound insensitive to his dilemma?
2007-03-25 14:59:40 · 6 answers · asked by Sunflower 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that he needs to confront her about the break up. Six years is a long time and I'm sure the break up had to be hard. Maybe once he deals with that then he can continue with his life.
2007-03-25 15:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously being in a 6 year relationship will take a WHILE to get over. But he needs to not give in to her missing him right now. Tell him not to even talk to her, because the best thing for him to do is to completely distance himself from her, completely. Delete her and block her, get rid of things that remind him of her, and get that boy dating. He may not find someone right away, but it will keep his mind off of her.
2007-03-25 22:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for him for not falling for her again. We all know what's going to happen here if they get back together: Same pattern. She'll leave when she wants to without regards to his feelings.
If I was him I would break off all communications. She has no right to bother him.
He doesn't have to blame any current problems on the past, on her. Everybody has to own up to their own feelings.
Just be a listener for him.
2007-03-25 22:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like she doesn't know how bad she hurt him. he sounds like he wants her to know she hurt him so i would say at thiis point maybe he needs to talk to her about this sometimes getting these things out in the open helps heal the wounds and he can move on
2007-03-25 22:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by sharon r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you support the decision that he makes wither to go out with her and but tell how you fell but make sure he knows your there for him and what ever happens,happens.
2007-03-25 22:10:45 · answer #5 · answered by sara m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to talk to her or something see if she really likes him again. breaking his heart might have been a mistake or something. So tell him to talk to her tell him to try to see if she really likes him or just wants to be friends or something like that.
2007-03-25 22:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by s k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋