My ex-husband has drifted back into my life, and unfortunately, we have a big difference despite the fact we still love one another. I don't know if I can give him another chance not because I don't love him or trust him (our seperation was very complicated, no betrayals were involved), but because he is now Muslim. I am a believer in God, and I pray in my own way. I have my own spirituality. I know this may not be the "liberal PC" thing to say, but after living in Muslim lands for years, and studying Islam, being immersed in their beliefs, I do not agree with the tennants of Islam and very strongly so. In fact, to the degree, I'd choose death over conversion.
Well, he knows how I feel, and knows I am set in my ways. I don't aim to change him. He assures me he will respect my beliefs. But I have heard so many Muslim man/ non-muslim woman horror tales. I don't know what to do. He seems sincere, and I have known him for over 10 years. Any advice? My radar says: NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!
2007-03-25 14:51:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If you are divorced...leave it that way. I don't know a lot about the beliefs of Islam, but I don't think I could imagine a Muslim man ever being "Okay" with a wife that was not Muslim. Islam is very anti-women. You cannot deny that.
You may be able to influence him to change his beliefs, but you can do that from the outside. Don't go back. There is a point of influence and a point of infection. He will infect you eventually and don't believe for a second that as a devout Muslim, he will want to let you be a Christian.
Your "radar" is the Holy Spirit (God). Trust Him.
2007-03-25 15:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by RedE1 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Trust your radar, it's going off like that for a reason.
And ex-husbands are always dangerous to pick up again especially if the reason for the divorce isn't resolved or worked through. You can't know that there won't be problems or that he won't treat you badly, even if you have known him for a long time and love him. I wish love could be how we know we've found the right one, but it can be really deceiving and so many people have found the wrong one because they loved them. Love isn't always enough.
Can you respect him, can you find a deep lasting friendship with him that'll bond you two together through complications and arguments, and can he respect you in return? They don't call it a partnership for nothing- if you feel like it might not be one, it might not be a good relationship for either of you.
Sorry, I know you probably wanted to hear me say 'So what if he's a Muslim, go ahead!' but not everything's that simple.
But on the bright side, I hope you do find your partner in life and if it's him, that's great!
Edit: And Muslims do NOT hate Christians. That's a load of rubbish. This is about how you two function together as partners. Some couples with two different religions work! Some don't. It's completely dependant on the couple themselves.
2007-03-25 15:03:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your faith is obviously very rooted and grounded. I suggest that you not olny seek answers from other believers, but also pray and seek guidance from God's word. Don't let your personal feelings get in the way of your faith. Remember.....
2 Timothy 3:16-17:16>All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17>so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.
You are apart of that good work along with your faith.
Remember also that Jesus was not a prophet just as Islam would have you believe, when in reality he was the Son Of God. To further state your claim in this regaurd refer to the Gospel Of John
John 1:1 (The Word Became Flesh): 1>In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.
Then skip down to verse 14a
John 1:14a> 14aThe Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us.
Anyone trying to refute this would be insane, to do so.
As I said before stand firm in your faith, do not waiver to the left or to the right. Remember as well we are not to, yoke with unbelievers, by doing so we are going against the teachings of God and his word.
2007-03-25 15:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by disciple92800 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
to be in kind of relationship...marriage... we have to consider so much things..ang one of it.. the belief or religion.. the main purpose of marriage is not only to overcome the feeling or sex libido berween difference gender.. but to build a family under Allah's guidance... if you have the difference belief with your ex-husband... the same things will occur..divorce..because both of have you differ in many things... and it's prohibited for any muslim to marry non-muslim...
and i think you better re-check... when we are studying one religion..islamic religion.. it's not the same way when we study academic subjects... we have to study it with our heart and mind at the same time... and one more thing that i want to state... Not all muslim practices the islam as they should... just the same thing happened to other religion.. so don't judge the islam by looking at those who did't practices the well being promoted by islam....
2007-03-25 15:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by uci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't get mad for my saying this, but if your radar says no, it is very likely that you don't trust your husband. Whatever picture you've gotten of Islam, it seems your trust in your husband isn't particularly strong, and I doubt that you should go back with him, given that.
You owe it to him to be honest with him about your lack of trust in him, given your radar, and you owe it to him not to get into a relationship where you are uncomfortable. I feel you have a biased picture of Islam (not necessarily your fault, but simply resulting from the places you have lived apparently making you believe that), but you really shouldn't get into a relationship you're not comfortable in. Such relationships are doomed to failure - the only question is how long it will take for the relationship to fail.
2007-03-25 14:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Kate S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to convert if he actually loves you. If he doesn't say goodbye but won't convert there's one more out, if your in the states. Have a prenup that you and any children will never leave the states or be forced to convert. If he has a passport, he gives it to you and you put it in your private bank box along with yours.
Respect is not what you need it legal protection.
2007-03-25 15:02:12 · answer #6 · answered by Terry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely here is the case, Islam does not forbid Justful Killing. that's "Justful". Emphasis on the Justful. Killing, as in the type that happens immediately as in homicide, Is a extreme crime in islam and the punishment i've got confidence is loss of life. Muslims, are actually not allowed to kill Non muslims devoid of reason. Our prophet (observed) the guy that we persist with, our chief, his very own uncle replaced right into a non-muslim and he on no account as quickly as made an attack on him. Muslims are in basic terms allowed to kill while provoked, in the event that they are attacked then they are allowed to kill. The Qur'an is a fashion of existence, that's why it bargains with each and each element of existence, which is composed of conflict. It recognizes, yet not encouraging, that conflict will ensue because of the fact people constantly choose to income skill, inspite of the undeniable fact that we as muslims shouldn't start up them. Allah isn't shy in telling us the thank you to stay existence and he tells us that if concerns do come to conflict then we ought to constantly be ruthless as we ought to constantly be good. The Quran says we ought to constantly not want an bump into with the enemy, yet while we bump into them be corporation. inspite of the undeniable fact that, we ought to constantly on no account kill women nor little ones nor are we allowed to harm any tree's for the time of conflict and in the event that they surrend then we ought to constantly not proceed struggling with. Muslims have been taught that the only concern we ought to constantly have is of Allah, and we ought to constantly inspire the good and forbid the evil, subsequently if somebody is doing evil we ought to constantly forbid it and not enable it. it is the only case wherein muslims are allowed to kill, however if it rather is a non muslim, a muslim, a christian, a jew etc. Killing for no reason isn't allowed.
2016-10-19 22:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're Christian by any chance, the differences between Christianity and Islam are so great it wouldn't work out. If you believe that Christ is God, he wouldn't believe that, you guys would have no common ground whatsoever. You can tell him that to get him off your back. Your conscience is right, he made a mistake by embracing that faith. tell him muslim men are off limits for you.
2007-03-25 15:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Andres 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it. Don't do it.
Again, DON'T DO IT. I am not saying this just because he is Muslim, but because if your beliefs differ that greatly it will be trouble. Don't do it.
Um, Don't do it. :-) Best of luck to you, this sounds like a tough situation emotionally.
2007-03-25 15:06:49 · answer #9 · answered by Jacques 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if You do,You will be going against the Word of God.
Do not Yoke with an unbeliever,if you do you will have Devil
for a Father in Law.
2007-03-25 14:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by section hand 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋