2007-03-25 14:50:50 · 18 answers · asked by swisschica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this is your big day, it should be filled with people who you love and who love you,a close friend is one who's been around a while, not one you just met a year ago. she knows what you like, knows your moods, knows your family and other friends and gets along with all even if she doesn't care for them,someone you can trust, and someone who will be in your wedding, just to be able to party, a friend-loves you and wants this day to be perfect for you, she'll-be helpful,and around to talk to,she wont make a A OUT OF HERSELF AT THE-WEDDING.she'll be on time and be very respectful, choose wisely this is your special day, good luck congratulations
2007-03-25 15:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are thinking of that and have asked this question, then she's close enough. Sometimes a person is close enough to you that you can confide in them or they are good friends that can stand at your side, and being in your wedding would be the perfect example of that.
Good Luck and Congrats
2007-03-26 00:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
I have old friends who I asked to be in my wedding but I guess I wasn't important to them anymore because they aren't coming. One said her parents won't let her but hey she is an adult and I can smell an excuse
Another friend I asked I had only known maybe a year - I met her online and we had only been out a couple of times - still she was pretty much my only friend in L.A. but she turned me down.
My fiance knew one guy for a few months , went out with him a few times, didnt talk to him for about a year, saw him 2 more times, and just asked him to be in the wedding .. and he said yes.
My fiance's best friend is someone he just met last June/July but he works with him and they got close really quickly. I've only known his girlfriend a couple of weeks but since he is the best man and she also knows my fiance I may ask her to be in it and I think she would say yes.
So I think it really depends on the person . . I know I am having soo much drama with mine !!
Hopefully someone would be flattered if you ask them - I think a person saying NO doesn't really have anything to do if they feel close enough to you or not - some poeple just HATE weddings, and others like me - would LOVE to be involved. Feel her out, ask her has she been to a wedding before, does she like weddings, and then ask her. You could know someoen for YEARS and if they hate weddings and don't feel like the hassle - they will say no .. You could know someone for only MONTHS or WEEKS but if they love weddings and like to be involved they will say yes..
Good luck =)
2007-03-25 21:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to eachother at least once a week (or are not related) DO NOT HAVE HER IN YOUR WEDDING!!!! Everyone I know has had someone in their wedding that they don't talk to anymore. I had 2 that I don't talk to anymore and it's only been 5 years. My sister-in-law had 3 that she doesn't talk to anymore (they have been married for 13 years) and I heard her explain the pictures to her kids and it's just pointless. Keep the wedding party to close friends and family!
2007-03-25 21:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by cicabunn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just think of it this way... when you are looking at your wedding pictures in 20-40 yrs, will you remember her? Its best to have family be in weddings.. you will always be family.
I had a friend who put her best friend in the wedding. A couple years later, they hated eachother and now that girl is in all the wedding photos.
2007-03-25 21:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by bittersweet 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is your wedding you can have anyone you want in it. If you just met the friend yesterday and you feel compelled to ask her to be in your wedding then do it. It is your day the only other person who has any say in it is the groom.
2007-03-25 21:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by dramamama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound sad, but my fiance had a friend he wanted for his best man. The guy is short. So I chose my attendant because of her height. We'd grown up together but had grown apart. The other two were cousins that were paired with both my & my fiance's brothers, whom I r-e-a-l-l-y wanted in the wedding.
I just wanted to get marry with the lest amount of hassle.
2007-03-26 00:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not how long you have known a person, its do you like this person enough to put in your wedding. Its your day... Take the stress off and do with what you will. God Bless and Congradulations!
2007-03-25 21:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by shakannaglory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have been friends for a long long time or ask a cousin or close family member.
2007-03-25 21:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the Maid of Honour, it's the person you feel totally closest to, and couldn't imagine her not being beside you the whole way.
For Bridesmaids, just choose two or three of your closest friends. Not acquaintances.
2007-03-26 12:17:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋