We've only "dated" a little over 2 months. I've tried to dump him twice, but he cries, and begs for forgiveness. So I'm a sucker and give him another chance. Everytime he promises to change, and every time he makes slight changes but nothing significant enough to keep him. I don't want to hurt him, but I don't want to remain a couple.
Last night I tried to duck him. I was having a party and invited someone I was interested in. I told my boyfriend I was stuck in another city because we were too drunk to drive and we were going to sober up for a few hours so I wouldn't be back til late. He goes for a "bike ride" and sends me a text at about midnight saying he rode passed my house and saw a party. We live in two different cities, miles away, and he rides all the way out here.. Creepy. Basically I'm a big fat puss that can't dump him properly and I need the best way. Something that wont make him cry. I do want to be friends, but he's keeping me from potential boyfriends.
2007-03-25 14:45:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The things he needs to "change" about himself is his poor attitude. He's a jerk, very sarcastic and rude. He cuts people off and presumes to know everything. He's always right and everyone else is always wrong. Even if they're right, he'll fight it just to argue with them. These are things he needs to change, for good reason.
2007-03-25 15:00:31 · update #1
He's totally manipulating you. He's using his tears because he knows it will make you feel bad. Don't fall for it!!!! Just tell him you are over and walk away. Explain that you have already given him chances and he just not the right person for you. Tell him that he shouldn't have to change for you and he needs to find someone who loves him just the way he is. Then just walk away and don't look back. Stop all communication. Don't talk to him, email him, etc. Hopefully, he'll get tired of being ignored and move on. The fact that he is checking up on you is creepy and you need to end it now - before something negative happens. Remember - the tears are not real!!! Just move on and find a guy that is right for you.
2007-03-25 14:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by anyareed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter. It's more personal than a text or whatever. And you won't have to deal with him interrupting you by crying and making you change your mind. State kindly but firmly that it's OVER, you wish him the best of luck, and you hope that he can get past this and be friends eventually.
2007-03-25 21:50:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm....Excuse me push him to the left! You have to be cruel to be kind! just go ahead and let him know straight up! You shouldn't have to hurt yourself in order to accomadate him. Let him go. In the end he will be okay. He is just crying and stuff because he knows that it will work on you! You always take him back. Put your foot down. sometimes the nice way doesn't work.
2007-03-25 21:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow, do him a favor, and just tell him bye, and do yourself a favor, don't try to change someone to fit your needs and wants, always remember, a leopard can't and wont change their spots.
2007-03-25 21:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by rosie p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first dont fallow his silly lil lies ok do your self a favor and dump him he just wants u 2 have fun trust me i ve been thrue that ok
2007-03-25 22:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you rather be like that or free?? do what you have to do. n if your not happy then do what you have to to change that. dump him straight up. dont matter if he cries
2007-03-25 21:48:42 · answer #6 · answered by Classic Beauty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you're not ready for a committed relationship
2007-03-25 21:49:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him why u want to dump him
2007-03-25 21:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by north h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm tell him your cheating on him and then maybe he'll leave you... 0_o
2007-03-25 21:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by lind.say.le.anne. =] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋