If my child is punished at school for misbehaviour, should I punish him again at home?

Answer 1

That's a very broad question. I don't believe in "double-punishment." I do believe in making them full aware of the consequences of their actions. Consequences can extend beyond the initial punishment...parents share their disappointment, when you do this in life this happens, etc...sort of like the domino effect...initially you did this, so the school took this action, but this is how it effects your life...did the child cheat on a test in 8th grade? The school punished you by suspending you for 3 days, but I can't trust you as much as I did before...so no, you can't go to the mall without an adult this evening.

Answer 2

WOW - are there still school systems which allow children to be punished? I am assuming that you mean 'corporal?" We stopped that almost a decade or more ago. At any rate, if you allow the school to 'punish' your child, then how will your child recognize your disappointment? Depending on the age (talking to a kid is rational and reasonable ONLY if they can understand the repercussions that their actions have warranted. As for me - no school would lay a hand on my child. I am a teacher and I firmly believe that my child would not know the wrath and punishment as it should be unless given out by me. Further, not that my child was an angel - but she was so into school, loved her teachers, did what was right because she was taught at home. I never had to worry about any bad behaviour but you know girls can be different sometimes from boys.

Answer 3

Yes, you should reinforce the idea that misbehaviour will not be tolorated and you want to keep the communication going with his teacher/s concerning any matters like this.

You do not want him thinking that he can play you and his teachers off against each other. It is the same thing that children quickly learn to do with parents and other family members...ie if Mom says no, I'll just ask Dad.

It doesn't have to be a long drawn out punishment, but a couple of nights without tv., computer, video games (choose what you think he will not want to lose the most and do not send him to his room if if is full of these types of things; that would not be a punishment.)

I have worked with special needs children for years and have listened to them say, "I was grounded, but I just stayed in my room iming the whole time so big deal... "

Good luck and remember all kids mess up sometimes, that is why God gave them parents and teachers to help them along the road of life. I can remember being grounded by my parents when I was a kid, it would only take one time and I learned.

Answer 4

It depends. If he was punished at school (that can be very humilating, especially in front of his friends) and you can tell he's learned from it, be his soft place to land.

If his behavior is not improving, but getting worse, then discipline is needed. But try to figure out what the root cause is.

For instance, my child ALWAYS acts up after visits with his dad. So, just punishing just for the sake of making them behave really isn't good, if you don't understand what is creating the change.

What specifically is going on? How old is the child? You can add details by putting the pointer over the "plus" sign and click on add details.

Good luck. Sounds like you are a great parent.

Answer 5

yes you definitely should because you will punish your child differently at home than the school will. The school will just give your child an after school detention, In school suspension, or out of school suspension, OR he/she will get yelled at or sent to the principals office. WHOOPTIDO, those my friend are not punishment those are just warnings. If you really don't want your child to get in trouble at school punish her/him when they get home. Simple as that. If she/he knows he/she will get in trouble at home then they will try to avoid trouble at school.

Answer 6

well i have raised 3 good children and i believe you need to find out all the details about the entire situation before you react in any way~~~now days it seems they make the story out the way the school wants you to hear it i used to firmly believe YES by all means punish them at home although now days i have found other kids twist things around so much and you don't know whom to believe and if by chance they have quote in at the school they get off the hook so beware mom ~dad be careful but good thinking to its not what it used to b when we were little we got it when we got bk home good luck ~~~~~~```

Answer 7

Yes, because when they get home and they are not punished in some way they will think that they only have to deal with it in school. And to a kid that the easy way out.

Answer 8

I say talk to your child about the experience at school and if you can tell he/she feels bad about it or has apologized, and is worried about what he/she has done...then no, do not punish/discipline again. Just talk about it and tell he/she to let it be a learning experience. On the other hand, if your child has gotten in trouble in school more than a few times, and has not learned from it then yes discipline again. Good luck, I have dealt with this too.

Answer 9

Yes . They have to learn its not ok to misbehave at school. If the school has a problem , I make it my problem as well. However I always get my childs side of it. You have to listen to your child there could be a problem at school you need to check into.

But you cant let your child act up anywhere !!! Take chage and put a stop to it.

Answer 10

YES! Your child misbehaved! That's bad on any part. You should take them to a room explain what happened and punish them. Spank them or ground them depending on the age.