I have been with my boyfriend for almost one year. We are in an exclusive relationship and everything is going well. His mother and siblings live about 200 miles away and they only see each other about once per year, although they talk on the phone often. He is not very close to them. The rest of his family live in Central America. I am close to my family, and even though they live about 100 miles away I try to see them about once per month. They know I have a boyfriend and would love to meet him. I have mentioned this to him several times and he shows no interest in meeting them, or meeting any of my friends. I have no complaints about him other than this. He is hard-working, loyal and loving. Am I asking for too much too soon or does his reluctance to meet my family seem strange?
2007-03-25 14:29:32 · 5 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is probably nervous. maybe get him to meet them doing something that is in his interests so he feels more comfortable although he is still going to be nervous. maybe he has never been in such a serious relationship and hasnt been in the situation, or maybe he was in the situation where things didnt go well with the others family and they didnt like him and he is reluctant to be in that position again. make it as comfortable for him as possible but make sure he realizes its important to you that your family meet him, tell him you know they will love him etc etc. good luck
2007-03-25 14:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lynne. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're asking too much. Usually when you ask someone to meet your family it's like your relationship is taking a step in a serious direction and he might be afraid of that. Just ask him why he doesnt want to meet them. Tell him it would mean a lot to you if he did. If he has a reasonable reason for not wanting to meet them then leave it at that, but if it is a silly reason then there should be no reason for him not to meet them. If he really cared about you that much he would meet them just to make you happy.
2007-03-25 14:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Katdabrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 year is not too soon! Slap some sense into your man. LOL. No seriously find out why he doesn't want to meet them. And let him now how important it is to you! A year...he needs to meet them!
2007-03-25 14:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he feels the timing is right, he will meet your family. For now, leave him alone and don't rush him.
2007-03-25 14:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have been going out for a year then yes you are fine but not the parents the friends but maybe parents.
2007-03-25 14:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by jbjessbess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋