What do you think is wrong with this man please help me?
i am married to a guy i ask him if he is gay he tells me no . i dont know what is wrong with him i even took him to counseling and tried to teach him and he doesnt want to learn or if he does want to learn he forgets how. i am so fustrated .
okay here is goes..
my husband and i have no connection. he cant relax around me he is alway nervous acting. if i shower with him he cant get into it with me. when i try to look into his eyes he will do something to distract me from me looking in his eyes. sex is bad, he just tries to put it in. he doesnt slow dance with me or kiss me for more then2 sec. he acts air headed all the time. he is rough with his touch. he doesnt massge me or kiss me all over or anything he is really dry . he doesnt hang out with the guys he only hangs out with my girlfriends or he has other girls he hangs out with but no guys. he is really weird and i feel lonely. He will wait on me hand and foot beg to stay
2007-03-25 14:25:18 · 8 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You both need to see a marriage counsellor. There isn't much you can do.
2007-03-25 14:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Has he always been indifferent to your relationship? Think carefully. Why did you get married to him?
I do not know your husband so I cannot tell you if he is "gay". However, his penchant for hanging out with your girlfriends does not sound gay but looks to me like a need for feminine affirmation. Are you giving him that affirmation?
Why can't he relax around you? Are you always nagging or pushing him away? Has he always been nervous around you?
If you want your relationship to work (as it no doubt did some time in the past) then you should seek professional counsel. It is better and more personal than Yahoo! Answers. I really feel your frustration and wish you the best. Remember you are not the victim here, you can do something about the marriage.
2007-03-25 18:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by Taharqa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want him for how he is or for him to be your idea of the perfect man. Most relationships are about some kind of compromise, you took him to counselling!!! Is he not capable of taking himself,if he felt he needed it! Sounds to me like he has little self esteem and reading between the lines I have to ask have you taken away his manhood.
2007-03-25 14:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be brutally honest, if you harangue him as much as you're filling up the pages here with your rants, I'm not surprised he's nervous around you and less than attentive. You're obviously unhappy with everything about him so just move on and let yourselves each find someone you're comfortable with.
2007-03-25 14:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
multiple issues, truly. yet on a grand scope.. negativity, truly. i'm very cut back and dry with damaging impacts. i supply no power to something damaging. existence's too short.
2016-10-01 11:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to get him to open up it sounds like because it sounds like he is going though something internally that is really difficult for him like a major conflict. ask him many questions just simple ones to get him to open up with you or if not you then get him to open up with someone else. dont know whats going on but it sounds like he needs to talk
2007-03-25 14:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best you ask yourself "What is wrong with me?" When you find the answer you may find your guy does not have a problem any longer.
2007-03-25 14:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by jrjrjr_jr3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god this is getting boring now!!
2007-03-25 14:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by bells 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋