i am so upset i cant stop crying. i am married to someone who doesnt make love to me. he just f--- me. he is rough with his hands and he is meaning less in the bed room. i cant kiss him he isnt passionate, he doesnt slow dance his kisses are terrible and when i try to look into his eyes he gets nervouse and doesnt know how to feel,. he wont do anything with me like massage with oil or show me he appreciates me. he has no problem getting errect but thats it he is distant cold and calmy. he touches me it feels like sand paper and there is no passion in his kiss. he has no guys friends only girlfrinds. he and i are very distant but yet he wont leave and he will do anything for me friend wise. he wants kids and i feel i cant have them like this. i feel empty and i dont think this kind of marriage is normal. he wont experience with me in the bedroom and he wont look me in the eyes if i try to he looks else where he gets nervous.
what is wrong with him?
he doesnt have guy friends only girl
2007-03-25 14:19:53 · 10 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you like anything about him? Apart from the sex, how is your relationship? I would think twice about having kids as it would be wrong to bring them into a relationship if you think that this won't last.
Does your hubby have some issues with intimacy? Were his parents divorced? You may need to have counselling together, like Relate. That's if you still want in - you know you always have the choice of walking away yourself.
Maybe he is just very shy and worried about his performance, that could be why he can't look you in the eye. You could try being open with him in a non-confrontational way and see what happens. You see he will do anything for you "friend-wise", well just tell him how you feel and if he is really a friend, he might listen and change.
2007-03-25 14:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is taking his personal fantasies into the bedroom without including you. Obviously he enjoys dominating you sexually, maybe in more ways than just sex. If this is a precursor of what your marriage is to be like you need to confront him and maybe seek counseling. You married him for a reason...was he like this before? I am not ok with men seeking out female relationships, it shows insecurity, like they have to have constant attention from the opposite sex, and in turn makes them less apt to appreciating what they have at home. Seek Counseling...or an attorney.
2007-03-25 14:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by erin c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is he likes he, I am sure he loves you. You just need to have a good talk with him and tell him how you feel. From there he will open up and what needs to be done from there will be done.
2007-03-25 14:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your in love with the wrong guy. If the guy you are with truly loves you, he would do those things for you. Maybe you should talk to him about it, if he doesn't change then you should find someone who makes you happy.
2007-03-25 14:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay if you're really serious about this...i don't know but this doesn't sound like a marriage to me...what kinda man acts like this towards his wife???i think he's just using u and doesn't really love you...why do u let him do u like this?talk to him seriously...and why does he have Girl friends only??
2007-03-25 14:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by The Taste U can See 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did repeat everything twice. He may just be distant with his feelings or doesn't know how to be loving.
2007-03-25 14:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by littlemissflamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until jhe is asleep one night, silently pack a bag, and go!
2007-03-25 17:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by Bob Danvers-Walker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only he can answer your question as he knows what he is thinking.Ask him yourself is the only way to find out in the end
2007-03-25 15:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get into some couples or marriage therapy
2007-03-25 14:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the heck did you marry him?
2007-03-25 14:23:55 · answer #10 · answered by College Tri 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋