i am married to a guy i ask him if he is gay he tells me no . i dont know what is wrong with him i even took him to counseling and tried to teach him and he doesnt want to learn or if he does want to learn he forgets how. i am so fustrated .
okay here is goes..
my husband and i have no connection. he cant relax around me he is alway nervous acting. if i shower with him he cant get into it with me. when i try to look into his eyes he will do something to distract me from me looking in his eyes. sex is bad, he just tries to put it in. he doesnt slow dance with me or kiss me for more then2 sec. he acts air headed all the time. he is rough with his touch. he doesnt massge me or kiss me all over or anything he is really dry . he doesnt hang out with the guys he only hangs out with my girlfriends or he has other girls he hangs out with but no guys. he is really weird and i feel lonely. i feel its weird. he f--- but that is it no connection when i try he gets jittery we been together 6yea
2007-03-25 14:09:44 · 11 answers · asked by sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not a mind reader.
It could be he hasn't had experience much with the ladies, so you can't expect him to know how to act.
Communicate, be patient with him.
It looks like you want and want, but he doesn't know what you want.
He doesn't know how to touch you because you expect one thing and you don't know how to be gentle with HIM.
That's right, he needs to build his confidence and you need to be patience and teach him how.
He seems more like he was shy growing up or had a hard or quiet childhood, maybe he wasn't around girls much.
He doesn't massage you because you don't ask.
DO YOU kiss him how you want to be kissed?
DO YOU massage him?
DO YOU talk to him and ask him how his day is?
DO YOU take him out on dates?
It seems like maybe the problem might be you.
You have had too much experience with many different guys and you know what to expect. You want him to be the leader, but you don't put in your part of the work.
Maybe you are bad in bed. Maybe you are not, but it looks like you don't tell him or SHOW him what you want.
If you want him to touch you a certain way, GRAB HIS HAND and caress it to your body.
Be a teacher.
2007-03-26 01:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by elidet_reyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take this man by the hand. Sit down with him and have a talk with him. Tell him what you told us. He is the one that needs to hear this stuff. Not us. Maybe he has cheated on you. You need to communicate with him and tell him exactly how you feel. Then you will know. Ask the questions you need to ask. Maybe he is just not affectionate, but you need to talk to him. Let us know what happens. You need to talk to him.
Good luck!!!
2007-03-25 14:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my.... Has he always been this way? Becuase if he hasnt he could being going through some kind of rough stage in his life. Or maybe he might just not be attracted to you.... Who knows.
2007-03-25 14:15:05 · answer #3 · answered by KenKel1122 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why marry him?
Why ask him if he's Gay?
Why are you still with him?
Leave him, stop wasting your life on him!
drop me a mail shaun@sdhinternet.co.uk, I will give you a massage, and in the shower.....
2007-03-25 14:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs a kick up the rear end with a large boot, and doesent deserve you, start your own life and leave him out, you will be surprised how fast he comes around.
2007-03-26 11:43:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm didnt you know this before you got with him?? Maybe he's not gay, it could just be you (not bein mean)
2007-03-25 14:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him in the first place now......?
2007-03-25 14:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW i think he's gay. or maybe he's having affairs with all his girl "friends"?
2007-03-25 14:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by lexis-gurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's gonna hurt but maybe he's just not into you..........sorry but,he doesn't have to be gay....maybe he just doesn't fancy you.
2007-03-25 14:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by james g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he is gay
2007-03-25 14:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by angela 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋