I go with a black boy from my school and i am mixed does it matter what race a person is if you really care about them?
2007-03-25 13:59:57 · 5 answers · asked by Shan_Shan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course it doesn't matter, to either of you - as normal human beings. But if you spend a lot of time together, meet their friends & family, and have sex together, sooner or later you won't only be "in love", you'll end up really loving each other, enough to marry and have his children. You might want to think about how your children will be treated by racists. You might want to ask what your parents' experience was like, first.
If you marry, that does mean inviting him to become part of your family. If your parents don't know him, and don't want to know him, they will hate this, and you'll have to choose between years of difficult sulking and starting again with someone they approve of. Did your parents get together because of hate or love? (You'll have to figure that one out for yourself.) Some people marry because they hate the same things, and have huge problems showing love to their children, for this reason. Some people marry for love and have problems making friends in a "mixed" society. They hate the thought of their loved child hearing racist abuse from anyone, because they know how it hurts. They think they can match people like socks, that people should pair off according to age, height, skin tone, accent. I don't think human beings work that way. But people can see better than they think. Your parents probably love you and don't want you to be hurt by others. Right now, he's one of the "others" - so, Introduce them, see how they get along?
Maybe you could ask them to give you a list of people they will arrange for you to marry? Or you could study hard, be financially independent, and decide who you want to date. Your choice. You might say - life's too short to believe the worst of people; or, let the bullies win. My guess is that your parents know how total strangers judge them; and feel you are too young to make judgements, so, they need to protect you from being too involved with someone who looks different. It's OK, they probably think, to fight your battles for you, but you are too young to protect your own kids from hearing what they heard. Good opportunity to talk with them & get to know them. Maybe you guys are just as strong as they were; maybe you know your own minds enough to avoid being bitter or sad before it gets serious. Either way, they see you gambling what you can't afford to lose. Is that your dignity, or your relationship, or what? Talk with them. Hopefully times have changed a little.
2007-03-25 14:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it shouldnt matter at all. A lot of parents are still stuck in the past when different races dont go together. A lot of people these days date opposite races, and there is nothing wrong with that!
2007-03-25 21:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by afireinsidexxx77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean your "mixed"?
Personally, I don't really 'approve' of interracial dating, so I may be biased to the situation, but if you TRUELY LOVE HIM, then there's no stopping you.
2007-03-25 21:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kris 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no it does not matter, its about the heart and personality, not the outside appearance
2007-03-25 21:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your parents say no you're only going to tick them off and look rebellious. Just don't say your going to marry the kid....
2007-03-25 21:05:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋