Why hasn't he called? I don't understand. We had a great 2 weeks of dating, yes, we did have sex. We met on

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yahoo personals & totally clicked. He used to text me & call me everyday. I know he had his 3 yr. old this weekend, that he adores, but is that a reason not to call? He said he wanted to do something this Saturday but I never heard from him. Last time we saw each other was Thur. night & it ended great! I've left a message on his cell Sat., text him to say happy birthday this morning (Sun.) but still haven't heard from him. I text him yesterday to ask if everything was alright & he replied back saying, "cooking. yes." Should i assume he lost his phone & doesn't have my cell anymore? I don't think it's b/c we had sex. We really had a connection after our first time. I really am attracted to the guy & don't know when I should stop trying to get a hold of him. Should I email him with my number in case he lost it?? I really don't want to seem desperate. What if someone saw the text messages & erased them (maybe an x or someone who likes him.) what if he got in a wreck? Im 30, by theway

Answer 1

It may be that he just SAID that he had his 3 year old this weekend to have a break from you. The fact that he hasn't called you all weekend gives me that impression. You have to understand that men and women think differently. To elaborate, there is the real possibility that once you had sex with him, he got what he wanted from you and now he's trying to blow you off, despite any impression you got of a "connection" between you two.
If you were on his mind this weekend, believe me, he would have called you. He possible would even go out of his way to spend time with you despite having his toddler.
Here's my advice, and believe me, this is solid gold here. Do NOT keep contacting him! If a guy smells any type of desperation in a woman, that scares the heck out of him. You are just going to push him away by doing this. He's doing his thing this weekend, and he probably assumed you would, too. The fact that you have contacted him two days in a row despite him telling you he had plans tells him that you are just waiting by the phone for him nonstop instead of doing your own thing.
A man likes when a woman wants him. A man doesn't like when a woman needs him. You obviously need this guy and he could tell. Just back off and give him the impression that you are a woman who isn't necessarily going to settle for a guy just because you both went out a few times, and that you are open to having another guy come sweep you off your feet if the occurance were to happen.
You will then see the truth in how he really feels about you. If he isn't worried about losing you to someone else, then his feelings for you never were that strong. If he gets the impression that unless he makes his move to keep you to himself that he will lose you and he does what he can to keep you to himself, then his feelings are real.
But don't come off like your trying to get him jealous or anything. The most effective way to get him to make the next move is to give him the impression that you don't care what happens from here. If you try to make him jealous and he notices, that will prove to him that you need him enough to play those games and that will turn him off.
In other words, don't be the chaser in the relationship, be the chasee. Let him chase you. If he doesn't, his interest in you just isn't strong enough, and there isn't anything you can do about it. Except for maybe showing him you don't care, and that your moving onto the next guy. To do this tells him psychologically, "Was I not good enough for her?" and you will be of more social value to him as a girlfriend.
If you prove to him that he can have you anytime he wants because you are so head-over-heels for him, something in the male mind says, "I can have her anytime I want, why should I go through the actions to make her mine right now? She will still feel the same way next week or two weekends from now, so I'm going to go and do whatever I want. Because I know there is no chance that I'll lose her because of it".

Answer 2

When should you stop trying to get ahold of him? now

He has your number, he didn't get in a wreck, the more you text him, leave a voice-mail, etc. the less chance that he will get back to you. He has your email address, obviously. He met you online. Don't email your number to him, if he did lose it he could email you and say that he lost it.

Sorry to sound harsh but you know that he can reach you and he isn't. It's only been a few days since you've seen each other. He's not obligated to contact you daily; he may think you are being too needy so soon. Just go do your own thing and he'll call you once you quit contacting him.

Answer 3

There is most likely something else happening in his life. Remember , guys don't think like girls do. Sex can be a deciding factor. He may not even know him self. When a guy really clicks with a girl , it's a an almost every day thing. It just doesn't seem that it clicked for him. I'm sure he'll call if he needs a hit, or if his other plans fizzle out. You are not the center of his thoughts. Sorry, move on.

Answer 4

Don't email him your number! Sometimes people pretend to click in person and even go as far as to have sex with the other person when really they know there is no future.
Hopefully that's not what's going on with him. You have contacted him several times already and he hasn't gotten back to you so leave him alone. It was only 2 weeks maybe he is trying to work things out with his ex or maybe he has been busy with his kid. If it's going to work out he will still want to call you. Don't blow him up and look desperate!
He is reading your messages because he wrote back to the one that asked a question. He's either busy and he will call you or he's not worth your time.

Answer 5

Hon, if you met him on Yahoo Personals, he's been meeting other women too. I'd have never thought of this but for the fact that my friend has been meeting men on eHarmony...lots and LOTS of them.
Please don't call him again, and don't email him your number. He has it. (And it's very doubtful he's been in a wreck.) And I don't mean to sound harsh Sweetie, but you're coming across as very needy. Silence is golden; maintain it for a while and see if he contacts you.
I don't think having had sex with him influenced him one way or another. But as I said...if he met you, he's met others too, and is probably exploring all his options. Keep your dignity, Girlfriend. Don't grovel to him. If he doesn't call back, stay on Yahoo Personals and meet someone who can meet your needs. YOU are important too, you know :)

Answer 6

Think of something you would like to do with him (go to the movies, have dinner, whatever) and email him and ask him if he would like to. If he gives you a vague answer, or does not answer you at all - you can safely assume that he only used you to get laid. If that's the case, DO NOT keep contacting him. He's a loser. It's okay to get burned by a guy once but NOT twice. Don't be sucker. Find someone else.

Answer 7

Golly Gee, How many others do you suppose this guy clicked with?? Why do you girls assume the guy likes you? Or that want a relationship?? You give him what he wanted. You don't know if he's married, or maybe living with someone? By the sounds of things a roll in bed with honey is all he was interested in!!

Answer 8

if you are 30 then you should know the answer to your own question come on . theres a old saying why but the cow when you can get the milk free i know you have heard thisbe for think a bout it . this can,t be the first time this has happened to you

Answer 9

as you get older the need to notch up sexual partners decreases === we want a relationship and sex gets better the longer you are in a relationship so i agree that it is probably not because you have had sex --- im sorry it sounds like he has other reasons to not contact you --- and if he is not then he just does not wish to --- i know i keep phone numbers of my lady in a few places just to make sure --- im sorry maybe dont try to contact him and see if he contacts you --- best wishes to you

Answer 10

I think you need to calm down, because you might be scaring him away!! Dont call him to much.. dont lead him to believe that your in dyer need to be with him so soon.. let him call you.. just force yourself to not text, or call .. as hard as it might sound you have to find out for yourself if he likes you, and if he does he will call you back. he might have just wanted to spend time with his 3 yr old, and maybe talked to you after she was gone.. id give it like a week if he hasnt called by then.. then dont worry about him..