I have a problem with speaking before I think. I have a 2 year old and I always get mad too easily like when she tears up stuff and makes messes. I yell too much and get mad too easily. I never hurt her or anyone though. I would never hit anybody but I yell too much and get excited too easily. And my husband gets on my nerves and I yell at him and be a b**** too much. My problem is I don't think before I yell or say anything. What can I do to help this? Please don't tell me to see someone about this because I can't. I have no money and no insurance.
2007-03-25 13:49:22 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Maybe you can go to the library and read a parenting book?
It might help you see that the things your child is doing are normal, and not intentional?
Some community resources provide low-cost counseling as well. Try a google search for a low, or free counselor in your area.
2007-03-25 13:53:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like the other guy said, a vacation would be a good idea. But since you don't have money or insurance, I'd say to just get outside and walk.
Part of your irritability might be related to not getting enough sleep or not eating correctly. With kids, it's tough to take the time to sleep when you have them running around ripping things though. Take the time to treat yourself to something nice once in a while. As a wife and mom, you kind of have a few free 'flip the fxck out' cards. If my kid was tearing up things, I'd probably yell too.
2007-03-25 21:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're taking step 1 to help yourself. You've got the insight to know there's a problem.
Perhaps take a look at why you're angry all the time. Is it the home situation /andor money etc & is there something you can do about whatever is making you angry in the first place. If not then you'll have to work at changing your reations.
I'm not an alcoholic or religious but the alcoholics serenity prayer is a goodie. Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.
In those 10 secs that you're going to count, take slow deep breaths through your nose & let them out through you're mouth & while you're doing that, take a look at what's making you immediately angry & see how really unimportant it is.
What seems like a problem to you may not be a problem at all. The 2yo will make messes & will do things wrong & you're the one who needs to teach her. She'll learn better with stern words but not angry ones & you'll both be happy in the long run.
You can't have people walking on egg shells around you so they won't upset you. It's too tense.
You're going to have to teach yourself to think before you react. Make the 10 secs a habit.
2007-03-25 21:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jill 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take some time by yourself, like a day in the park reading, or if you can, get your nails done, something that you like doing. You may just need some time by yourself. Think-have you had any quality time with YOURSLEF????
Just, when you sence yourself getting a little ansy, just calm down, and sit and have a glass of water. You should really talk about this with your husband. That's what you have him for. For him to be next to you always during the good and bad and to help you with your problems. And you to do the same for him.
Hope I could help!~isa B-)
2007-03-25 21:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by XD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep something within reach or something in your pocket for you to grab. I know if I get angry (which I do a lot) if I grab onto something, it gives me something else to concentrate on. You won't be so easy to yell if you're too busy looking for whatever you want to grab.
Also, you can take up a hobby to center you. Like someone before said you could take up going to the library to read. If you have something to calm you down before hand you may not be on edge when it comes down to a confrontation.
2007-03-25 21:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Joe S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations on your daughter!! i too have anger "issues", so i can understand how you feel. it is hard being a mom, bt you will get through it! is it possible that you have a bit of depression? after i got mine treated, the yelling lessened, and I seem to have more patience. there are always herbal remedies that can help with depression. check a health food store to see if they have anything. the only other thing is that with time, you will learn how to control yourself. you are already on the way to helping yourself, simply because you admit you need to work on it!! good luck, and lots of hugs!!
2007-03-25 20:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by harley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with you on this one. I just lose it! I get so mad over nothing. Later im sorry i did. I think we should try what the person said about ten seconds to calm down.
Good luck! I'll be working on it with you!
2007-03-25 20:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by shea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take a vacation, you relly need one.
Wether it's to the Bahamas, or on a relaxing cruise, to a ramantic dinner, by yourself.
Control your anger, have a stress ball.
Think of happy thoughts.
2007-03-25 21:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by ladiesman27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Count to 10 before you say or do anything. I promise in 10 seconds, you will have calmed down.
2007-03-25 20:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋