I have not spoken to Moms side of the family in 5 years because they chose that. Lets say my Aunt who has not contacted me or my my mom in 5 years dies, do I have to go to her funeral?
I dont want to at all. but shes being buried in the same plot as my father and where my mom will be.
2007-03-25 13:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by tbo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Im afraid other people in the family will start a fight/argument with me there. Stare me down and may even throw me out.
2007-03-25 13:56:38 · update #1
just go and pay your respects even if you didnt like her. she is still a human being that you were related to. and you might regret it if you dont, what have you got to lose by going?
2007-03-25 13:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by jezzika 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You never have to do anything as an adult, however if you feel like you would want to support people that might break down while grieving it is a good thing to do. Also, funerals are a good way to rebuild old bridges. Everyone is feeling very emotional and thinking about goodtimes, a lot of good emotions are shared and that is a goodway to start building new relationships to replace old broken ones.
That is if you even want to try... If you do not care, then just don't go.
2007-03-25 21:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by blameless7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U shouldn't have to if u don't want too, but--------u don't go to a funeral for the deceased, u go to show respect for the survivors. Why would u think there will be fights/ arguments if u go? Why would they try to stare u down or throw u out? Was she ur Moms' sis or ur Dads'? The ans. to these questions would help me help u, more. If ur Mom's going, u should go to show support for her. I have a feeling she's going to need u. Good Luck, & don't let those ppl bother u. ( If they try to stare u down, turn away-if they try to argue w/u, walk away.)
2007-03-25 21:23:09 · answer #3 · answered by louise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to go. No one is forcing you to. Since you haven't spoken to anyone on your mom's side of the family, they are most likely not expecting you to be there.
I'd say, if you haven't spoken to them in 5 years then your aunt's funeral would be no place for a reunion. You're being there, might actually make it more difficult for them to grieve.
2007-03-25 20:54:21 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go. We hadn't spoken to my dad's family in a long while, except for when he got sick. When his mother passed away (after not speakinig to her in a long time) I knew that I needed to go. One, to try to bury past hurts. Two, to be there for my father. I don't know why we stopped talking, I just know that we drifted away. The choice is ultimately up to you. But I would recommend you go. If anyone gives you any flack, well they are tasteless for bringing stuff up on a sad day. It may also help the healing process. You would be amazed how some families get closer after a tragedy. Good luck and condolences.
2007-03-25 21:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by ESTamez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This same thing happened to me...my uncle passed away and I really liked him...but the rest of his family had not gotten along with others in the family...So I decided along time ago that I would not put myself in any uncomfortable situations again....the ones that I have control over that is....So I sat down and wrote a card to his wife who knew about the animosity within the family....I had a quite time at home by myself and remembered the good times we had....and I did not feel quilty at all about not getting among the other family members....Good luck dear.... Take care of yourself..the person is gone...
2007-03-25 21:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by foxygirl29303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you should do what is in your heart.
I myself would go just to let people know that it wasn't my mother and my idea not to be in contact with each other.
Be a bigger person and don't worry about other people think, most of them just want something to talk about and just want people to feel small.
If a fight starts leave and not let it get to you.
2007-03-25 22:06:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly don't have to go to anyone's funeral, but you might not regret doing so and showing respect for the deceased. But it's your call.
2007-03-25 20:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you do not have to go,but if you are asked to go by a family member that you love and respect then I would go.
2007-03-25 20:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if your mom goes then so should you. if she doesn't go, then don't
2007-03-25 20:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋