She whines and cries every second! The only time she is not unhappy is when she is sleeping and it takes her at least 1 hour of crying to get to sleep. Then she wakes up in the middle of the night at least twice every night! I try to play with her, entertain her, feed her, give her Tylenol (in case it's teething or something), I keep her diaper changed, I have taken her to the doctor even and she has a clean bill of health! Today I was so frustrated, I put her in her crib and left her crying because I didn't know what else to do!
2007-03-25 13:44:29 · 16 answers · asked by Insurancepro 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Children are like that...they really are sometimes. If it is constant and an everyday kind of constant, consider changing her food habbits. Maybe she is lactose intolerant? Try giving her no milk or milk products and see if that doesn't make things better.
If it's not every day and all the time, then maybe she is teething or she is just going through the cycles...I know it's rough (I have a child who was colicky), but IT DOES GET BETTER. If you can, have someone you can trust, like youtr mom or your sister, keep your baby for a night and give you a rest...that really will help.
Also...slack off on your housework for a while, take little naps when your girl is sleeping, or just lay on the couch and watch t.v....you need your "you time".
2007-03-25 13:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by Jax 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Been there with my own kids. I take care of my nephew and 2 of my nieces as well, and I've been through the same thing with them. It's really frustrating!!! I feel for you.
Most likely there's nothing wrong with her. Sometimes babies just need to cry, scream, etc... Sometimes for a really, really, REALLY long time. Did she stop crying when you put her in her crib and left the room? If not, then maybe she's bored. Maybe she's not mentally stimulated enough. This can be a really fun age. They're old enough to understand a lot more than we give them credit for. I have a niece right now who's 1 year old. I watch her every day. There are days when she's really whiny and crying and clingy and others when she's all smiles. When she's having a "bad day," I try to get her involved in something she would like.
She really enjoys the feel of different textures. Ideas: let your baby play with play-doh (keep close watch because she will try to eat it), if you have left over macaroni and cheese let her play with it. They really like the way it feel between their fingers. Blow bubbles in the park. Give her the broom and let her "help" clean. Finger paints are fantastic!!!!! They end up painting more of themselves than any paper. Then you can finish with a nice bubble bath.
I've tried these with my niece when she starts with the crying and screaming and all that jazz. These things help a LOT!! She's usually down for at least a 2 hour nap afterwards, and she wakes up in a very good mood. Good luck!
2007-03-25 13:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by Joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did good, when it becomes too frustrating Doctors say that put the child in a safe place and let her cry for a while, it is healthy and it prevents moms from getting too frustrated. The crying of a baby affects a part of a brain that its dangerous that's why there is many child abuse, because people are not informed. The baby's way to communicate it is by crying, maybe she got used to when she cries you come to quick to her rescue. You need to let her know that it takes you a while to come to her, and she eventually will get used to it. Put music next to her crib to sooth her... Regular music, not baby stuff. Then after 5 minutes of her crying(make sure she is not hurt) come and talk to her without picking her up. Set some type of schedule, for eating, playing and relaxing. Take naps with her, and at night she should have her own room, in a crip free of anything that she can grap, even blankets... then if she cries at night dont get up unless is time to eat, and at 1 year old she should not have snaks at night, only early morning, That way they get used to it for the todler years
2007-03-25 13:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by u_better_remember_me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can definitely relate. I have two children, ages 9 and 1. My one year old is also very much of a handful. Do you ever get a break from her, because that will help. Also, if she knows that you are stressed or upset, she can feel that. It is okay to leave her alone in her crib, when you become that upset, it is so much better that losing your cool. Has she ever had any stomach problems (ulcers, etc). I hope this helps. Oh yeah, my daughter doesn't sleep through the night either. .
2007-03-25 14:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Night time needs to be boring. You stated you play with her, feed her, etc. She is old enough that she doesn't need to be fed in the middle of the night. Also night time is not play time and she should learn that. It can be hard to let her cry it out, and you may feel guilty. Know that you are doing the best for her. Good luck!
2007-03-25 13:56:52 · answer #5 · answered by krispeds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your not giving her tylenol every day! if you take it to offten it can cause problems. Something may have happend to her to cause this wether it be fear of something or some type of change that she does not like. try this to help her fall asleep (i delt with this for a little while) Find a way to warm up a blanket and give her something warm to drink tuck the warm blanket up around her and give her the warm drink. set her in her crib as soon as she starts drinking. (i gave my son warm water so it would not rott his teeth) You could also at night try to do something to distract her. play music or put in a learning video.
2007-03-25 13:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she has gas? you could try gas drops just in case. they're safe. i don't know why else she would cry so much. my baby cries when he wants out of his crib or playpen to play around the house or when he just wants some attention but if i ignore him for a little while he eventually stops, he just turned 1. Good Luck!
2007-03-25 14:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it canbe overwhelming, when u feel overwhlemed to the extrememit is a good idea to just let hre cry it out in her crib. it could be teething, try teething tablets, those are the only things that worked with my daughter, she was 15 months when her first teeth finally poped thru, good luck.
2007-03-25 13:49:19 · answer #8 · answered by cudybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, even your avatar looks tired! I am so sorry. It sounds like it is true that you have spoiled your baby. Some people say you can't spoil a child, but if everytime it cries you rush to it, then yes, it learns to cry to get attention. I think you need to let her learn to "cry it out" as Dr. Brazelton says, and to soothe herself. Steel your nerves, shut her door, and leave her alone. If she cries excessively (up to an hour), go in and pat her back, but do NOT pick her up. Good luck--and I hope you get some rest soon.
2007-03-25 13:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have probably just found your own solution. As long as she is clean and fed, she should be alright. Put her in a crib or playpen, and let her cry. The question arises as to who is training who. She is training you to pick her up, and hold her constantly, and you are training her to allow you breaks away from her. It is really your choice as to who will win in this battle.
2007-03-25 13:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋