my parents r divorce and i live with mom in different state then dad my summer now is 2 weeks with mom rest with dad i think this is unfair i suggested half half plus switch up vaca during school year ecept 4 christmas b/c last one with dad i wasnt even with him didnt get a single present till next day and i brought it i feel he just wants me to boosts up his ego CUSE HE GOT ME NOW and it makes me sick i am on a emotional rollar coaster when i think about christmas i cry my eyes out im 13 i should have a say he doesnt wan me 2 dough
plz get me advice
should we go 2 court or just live with it
he doesnt even spend time with at summer but 2 times
2007-03-25 13:43:38 · 4 answers · asked by riahb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they dont like to talk to each other
2007-04-01 14:07:57 · update #1
If you dont want to go, then refuse to go. I think youre old enough to decide for yourself.
2007-03-25 19:58:16 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some dads don't make good dads but they do what they can. Your dad had to ask to have some time with you so at least he cares enough to do that. I'm sorry you had such a bad Christmas - Christmas is such an emotional time and it's easy to see when mistakes are made. Both my friend and I each had a bad Christmas when we were young and we still talk about it to this day and we're really a lot older than you are.
I think you should just live with it.. When you are older, your dad will be older too. Sometimes you both are at the right stage of life for each other - 13 is kind of a young teen. People usually remember their older teen years more and feel more in touch with older teens to talk to and understand them. Maybe your dad will be like that. I hope so - good luck. Ask your mom to send your presents with you so you won't risk having another bad Christmas.
Good luck, honey.
2007-04-02 19:27:05 · answer #2 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make you go. I do think that, you should have a sit down, with each of the parents. Prepare a list of things that bother you or you believe is unfair treatment. You're old enough to do this. If they wont go along, I suggest you talk with someone from Church. If that is not possible, involve another family member, like, Aunt, granma,sibling,or other.
Yes, you may also go to court, in most States, a child, after 12 yrs. of age, can ask, as to where and how to be shared by they're parents. If you decide to go this route, CHECK WITH LEGAL AID, it's free and they will help. Good luck to you.
2007-03-31 11:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the court has decided in the divorce is what the judge who ordered it is obligated to enforce. But since you are 13 possibly you could just say "NO". If you don't want to go, your parents may have to go back to court and realize that you come first. I know how parents go back and forth on holidays and sometimes they don't see that it's not always the best for the child. Good luck, sweetie.
2007-04-02 19:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by goldie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋