Is it the groom can't see the bride the day of the weeding or just in the wedding dress. My groom won't find another place to sleep the night before the wedding, he wants to stay home.
2007-03-25 13:37:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The tradition is that the groom cannot see the bride the day of the wedding. It has nothing to do with the dress itself.
This tradition stems from the custom of arranged marriage. The groom was not allowed to see the bride the day of the wedding. This is also where the tradition of the bridal veil stems from. The groom wouldn't even see his bride's face until after he had already finished his vows. Brides feared that, if the groom saw her or her face, he would be displeased and call off the wedding. This is where these traditions come from.
However, I doubt you're having an arranged marriage. Chances are, he willingly proposed to you, knowing what you look like already. He's already seen you and your face. There's no need to hide on the day of your wedding.
2007-03-25 15:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by lilmissmiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people say the groom isn't supposed to see the bride at all, some say the bride in the dress. It's not really practiced all the time anymore. A lot of people live together before they get married and see no reason for one person to sleep somewhere else the night before. It's not going to make or break your marriage, so I wouldn't be concerned about it. If he wants to stay and you're fine with that, go for it. Congrats!
2007-03-25 20:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by jennyss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, technically it's both, depending on what traditions you are following. Most people definitely do that the groom can't see the bride in the wedding gown before the wedding, and a lot of (the majority of) people do the bride and groom can't see each other on the day of the wedding until the ceremony.
Personally, my fiance and I live together, but I'm going to stay at my parents' house the night before my wedding. They live in the area (and actually live closer to our wedding venue than we do) and that way we don't spend the night before our wedding in the same bed. But, we are going to see each other before the ceremony.
If he doesn't want to stay somewhere else the night before the wedding, I can understand that. It's a big day for him, too, and he probably wants to get as good of a night's sleep as is possible. If your family lives in the area, stay with them. If not, get a room at the hotel where all of your guests are staying and have your maid of honor, mom, bridesmaids, friends--someone! stay with you the night before your wedding. If I don't end up staying at my parents' house, I'll definitely be staying at the hotel where my guests will be staying.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding and if you guys want to stay in the same bed the night before your wedding, go for it! It's your wedding, do it as you want to do it. Good luck!
2007-03-25 22:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not 100% followed these days. I still think it's a sweet thing to practice though. My fiance and I are going to do it, I'll be sleeping at my parents with all my bridesmaids the night before, and he'll be at his place. If you guys already live together mind you, and he doesn't want to leave, figure out if it's an important thing for you. If so, then why not spend the night at your parents or a member of your wedding party's home. Like it was said before though, it's not always followed. Good luck!!! :)
2007-03-25 20:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just traditional that the groom did not see the bride the day of the wedding until she begins to walk down the aisle. but these days some people still do it. but its up to you, if your fiance wants to stay home let him, and if you want go to your parents. my one friend rented a hotel and stood there. while her husband now. stood at their place. good luck and congratulations.
2007-03-25 21:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. My husband & I stayed together the night before & took pictures before our wedding, so he saw the dress as well. It's really no big deal.
2007-03-26 10:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you're already living together, what difference does it make.
But actually, I think its the groom cant see the bride IN HER DRESS until the ceremony.
2007-03-29 14:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the bride period. thats what makes it soo much fun when you see each other for the fist time that day with you all dolled up. why don't you get a hotel room with your bridesmaids the night before. let him stay home and be a putz.
2007-03-25 21:59:28 · answer #8 · answered by ericams85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares??!! My husband saw me the day before and the day of our wedding.
2007-03-25 20:53:37 · answer #9 · answered by KLW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the wedding dress is what I was always told.
2007-03-26 10:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by vixenangel_ia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋