It seems as though the "white" wedding gown no longer has the meaning that it used to. I attended a wedding last month...the bride wore white...this couple already has two children out of wedlock. Is this really proper? Also, is it proper for a bride to wear a white wedding gown when it is a second marraige? (veil, train..the whole schmear all over again)
2007-03-25 13:14:04 · 21 answers · asked by katjam234 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well what is consider proper? What does the bible says about that before deciding what is proper?, but personaly I do feel like if you not a virgin you shouldn't wear white because white is considered pure, but if you not a virgin then go ahead and wear what you wanna wear besides white, just don't do too much then I consider that as improper because you still represent God's reason for marriage. Off white.......will be the best thing though.
2007-03-25 16:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by reddie 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Life has really changed in the past 40 years... and people don't always have the same standards as they did a long time ago. I know that I will be able to wear white at my wedding and really mean it. Most people do it just because that's what is traditional, and it kinda looks a little weird to see the bride in something other that white or off white.
To the second question... I don't think it's right to be married more than one time, but people do wear the whole thing all over again, and that's normal. I don't know what they would wear if they didn't wear a white wedding dress, veil and train...
2007-03-25 13:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by raysgirl15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As has already been pointed out, the white wedding dress did not start out being a symbol of virginity. That idea arose sometime in the 20th century, and frankly, I think it's one of the tackiest notions I've ever heard of. It's as if the bride were a fresh-cut slab of meat wrapped in clean white butcher paper.
A wedding should be about the future. The bride's past is no one's business but the groom's.
2007-03-25 16:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on how the bride feel, i remarried with all 4 of my children standing up in my wedding, i wore white, but my feeling was that i am starting a new life and being pure to my new husband, i did hear only from my family members that it is wrong and i told them they didn't have to come if they didn't like it , my day was not about what anyone else felt only how my husband and I. And it was the veil and train , so on. and to this day i still hear about how beautiful my wedding was. It is a memory i and my children and husband will remember for the rest of our life.
2007-03-25 13:28:33 · answer #4 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The whole white doesn't signifiy being a virgin. It all started with Queen Victoria..The white wedding dress in those days had nothing to do with being virtuous -- it was all about wealth. Getting married in a white, extravagant gown was a sign that you could afford to buy a dress that you would never be able to wear again because of its style and colour (whites were not easy to clean in those days as they are today!).
2007-03-25 13:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not? I've been to a wedding where the bride wore white and her out of wedlock daughter was in the wedding party. No one thought anything of it. It was in a Catholic church, too. Nobody cared.
2007-03-25 20:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by carl j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
White should only be worn once and only for a church wedding. In Germany for example, a bride who wears white although not a virgin anymore, makes a cut for everyone to see at a certain part of her dress.
2007-03-25 16:09:45 · answer #7 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, so long as you print a disclaimer in the wedding announcement. Something like "the wearing of white by the party of the first part does not in any way certify virginity on said party" - or something like that. You may also have to list every sex encounter you've ever had, naming names and dates and circumstances. Heck, just wear jeans and a tank top and be done with it!
2007-03-25 13:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Anything goes, these days.
But, for a second marriage, I'd rather have a simple bow or some flowers in my hair than a full length veil and train.
Joan Rivers used to tell a joke about her cousin, who wore a white wedding dress......... and one black glove. Ha!
2007-03-25 15:18:11 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The meaning of white as "pure" for a bride's dress is long gone.The question of propriety of a white dress fades when compared with the question of propriety of having children out of wedlock. The colour of the dress is irrelevant. Right now it is just a tradition.
2007-03-25 13:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋