My 15 year old son has been having sex with his girlfriend which I have already tried to talk to him about....they are both really good kids and don't normally do anything wrong but I am concerened because I overheard him talking to his 15 year old girlfriend and she said she was pregnant..... how am I supposed to handle the situation????? We are currently taking care of her because her parents just died in a car accident while they were on vacation and she has been getting sick from what me and my wife have heard and my wife said that when she was doing my sons laundry that his sheets were blood stained really bad......what do I do????? They haven't come forth and told us she is pregnant but my wife really thinks so and we don't know but she possibly might be living with us until she is old enough to get a job and a house.
2007-03-25 13:13:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Make sure they know you love them. Sit them down and talk to them. Ask them straight out and let them know you love them no matter what. Let them know you dissaprove of their action but that you still love them.
If you aren't going to church, start. Take the kids. I'm not going to presume to tell you what religion or denomonation to go to, but find one that won't condemn you for the kids' actions but also not one that will tell you it's ok. But you need to get them to church, because otherwise anything you tell them is just your opinion and is no more valid than their opinion. God's word holds a little more credibility.
Find an older couple with a good family life. Ask their advise.
But above all, make sure the kids know you love them
2007-03-29 08:12:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nianque 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Woah, that's a big problem... That's a tough one. You should just talk to them. Seriously. Get it all out in the open. Some guidance will probably be good for both of them. 15 is too young for a baby and you and your wife would be the ones taking most care of it. Maybe your wife could take her to the doctor or health dept. and get some birth control. Better safe than sorry, yeah. You are like her parents now and since they will have sex even if you try to stop them, then atleast you can inform them with good advice and some help (birth control)
Good Luck
2007-03-25 20:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by KSH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is living there then you should comfront them about it. They shouldn't have been doing that, but whats done is done. If there is blood on the sheets then she needs medical attention. The stress from all this could cause a miscarriage and thats probably the last thing she needs.
Good luck, and remember, they are just kids they have no Idea how to handle this situation.
2007-03-25 20:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
can i just say this as scary as this situation is for you as parents this has got to be one of the scariest situations for them as well you really need to sit down and be up front about what has been heard and find out the truth the problem is not just going to go away and as mad as you both may be and as a parent myself i understand but they really need alot of support. the trouble is it doesnt matter what you do as a parent if teens want to have sex they will have sex. i myself came from a strict upbring and loving family but i got pregnant at 16 and am a proud mum thats raised my kids my self just let them no you are there for them no matter what they decide good luck
2007-03-25 20:28:47 · answer #4 · answered by www.girl2mum.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the four of you need to sit down and deal with it straight out, don't get angry, just ask, and take one step at a time, your support is the difference between your son having a shot at a decent life or not, it's very difficult i know but, it is what it is, she needs to get in touch with social services to get on medicaid, if she is pregnant try to make sure she has SS card, birth certificate etc.. she might need help obtaining these things, but she can go to health department until you get her some help and a doc, , she will have to check school policy on pregnancy, get her and your son in a parenting class, try to arm them with knowledge, good luck
2007-03-25 20:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about your SON getting a job? Since obviously You and your wife didn't seem to be able to teach him to keep his pants zipped and his drawers pulled up. Why is it all on the girl? Why does SHE have to find a job and get a house? Sounds to me as if you and your wife failed at instilling any morals or sense of values in your son and I can see why...
2007-03-25 20:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if she is preg ther isn't much you can do about it besides abortion. They need to grow up tho. Its sad how kids throw their lives away at such a young age. My 15 year old neighbor is Prg too. WHY OH WHY don't parents talk to their kids Not just you but all parents!!!!!!!!!!!!! it takes two to tango and some kids just pressure others into it as well But They Both consented and now must pay the price But let them know you still love them PLEASE
2007-03-25 20:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
um wow thats a shitty situation, if she is pregnant her living there will be a benefit to you and your wife cuz you can see the baby whenever you want but its not ideal. im wondering why you condoned her sleeping with him in your house, and why you didnt take her to get on birthcontrol, i mean obviously with them living together they were having sex, thats a given. just confront her and ask her if shes pregnant , if she is she needs to see a dr especially if shes bleeding. good luck
2007-03-25 20:22:50 · answer #8 · answered by cudybug 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-03-29 20:21:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋