Ive been going out with a guy for a month now and I like him soo much. Howevr, he recently told me that last year he was on an island on holiday and he met a girl. He said they hooked up and she's moving over from england next year for uni so she'll b just down the road from him. She sent him a message about a week ago when I was at his house. It said "hey i'm at home call me xx" He goes to me "nah im not gonna call her i cant be stuffed"
I looked on his myspace for the first time today, and this girl constantly comments his page saying things like "i love you babe" and on his pics she put "Im gonna marry this guy". He recenty commnted one of her pics of him and her saying "What a lucky guy ;)"
I don't want to make a big deal of it and mention it because I'd feel so stupid. She lives in another country so I really have nothing to worry about but he said they've been keepng contact ever since they hooked up. Should I just forget it?
2007-03-25 13:11:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no if she is moving close to him its inevitable theyll hook up again...sorry...
2007-03-25 13:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Are you crazy? Love is this thing that you sometimes have to bend the rules for but sometimes you have to put your foot down. He has agirlfriend, he should have had all his ties to other girls cut as soon as you guys had hooked up. Not because she's overseas, it doesn't mean that she's not a threat. I know you love him and I know it's going to be hard but you cant keep burying your face in the sand and hope that all the troubles will go away. It's gonna be hard to comfront him, but you have to. Who's to say that she's not the only girl that he has hooking up with? I'm not coming down hard on him, and neither should you, you should ask him, because he;s the only one who knows. I think he's a player, but I an be wrong. He may be playing on your feelings and taking advanntage of you love because he knows that you're in so deep that you won't leave. Again, I can be wrong. She's coming to where he is and that's not good. You may be another one on his list, but I may be wrong there. You have to confront him. Don't tell him about the myspace thing, unless you have to. It's his privacy and you have invaded it. If you see him giving you attitude or says he's gonna do something about it and does not, you need to leave before he sees that he has a hold on you. You deseve better. If it comes to the point where you leave him, he'll see what he has lost. Good luck and be strong.
2007-03-25 13:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by Girl-In-Blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! I wouldn't just forget it! You've only been together for a month and he's already flirting with this girl. I wouldn't make a huge scene over it, but just tell him that you're a little worried since they've hooked up before. Just say that you like him so much and you want to be his everything, and seeing another girl comment him and call him things that you do it makes you feel bad. You have every right to tell him how you feel.
2007-03-25 13:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no you should be worried. Just because she is overseas doesn't make it right. I thought the same thing about my boyfriend's ex girlfriend that lived across the country, but then she unexpectedly came to town and hung out with him - I am still VERY livid over that. I think you should tell this girl through myspace what her boundaries are. If she retaliates, whatever, its not cool, especially if you think he's the one. Send emails, nag, *****, just get her out of the picture, the sooner the better - this could be the kind of b.s. that will make or break your relationship in the future.
2007-03-25 13:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by fanny gardener 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen, this is very easy to figure out. He is completely disrespecting you by allowing her to still leave him those type of messages on his myspace account. You have to put a stop to that right now if you want any kind of future together with him. It doesnt matter if she is thousands of miles away. He should not allow this. That is cheating! Confront him! Never feel stupid about something that makes you feel bad or uncomfortable. If he really cares about you, he will stop immediately, and avoid any behavior that makes you feel unhappy. Take care
2007-03-25 13:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Warn that hommie to stop sending back her messages. On myspace, a comment can't come up unless it is approved. It means that hommie has been feeling moved by her messages. Warn him about it. Do something serious like avoiding him for some few days. He will know something is about to happen he will adjust. Watch him closely still. I am a guy a know what it means to have two chicks boned oftenly.
2007-03-25 13:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by Frank S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was actually in the same siituation with my guy not too long ago. He's a MYSPACE freak and there is this one girl in particular who calls him, IM him, all that. It made me upset a little and I hel it in at first but it made me almost crazy so I confronted him about it. I told him that I didn't like this girl having all this access to him and all the communication going on between them. He saw how much it bothered me and he is slowly pulling away from her. It made me feel a whole lot better. My advice to you is to tell him how you feel, if he doesn't show any sensitivity to your feelings or try to compromise with you...I think you need to reconsider your relationship with this guy.
2007-03-25 13:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Juicy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, have a really really really great date. Then maybe ask him about it ONCE to see what his answer is. Then you should probably tell him how you feel and say that you're getting a little jealous, and if he's a good boyfriend, he'll back off. You defiantly don't want him to end up in an affair.
2007-03-25 13:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by cat :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be concerned, this guy is keeping in contact with her because he wants to hook up with her again, he has already showed that he has no respect for you by maintaining the contact with her and leaving comments on her page, she is about to move down the road from him so most likely they will hook back up again, dump him and move on you can find someone who will have more respect for you....
2007-03-25 13:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! He is in a relationship with this girl and you are not on the myspace page. You need to confront him and decide if you want to be with him or not.
2007-03-25 13:20:39 · answer #10 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel like that you have to let your bf know about that it sounds corny but one of the most important things in a good relationship is complete trust you guys should be able to confide anything with eachother and if he likes you the same way you like him he'll understand that his behaviors making you uncomfortable and adjust accordingly
goodluck!
2007-03-25 13:15:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋