Ok, I don't want a boyfriend I just want a guy that could be my friend. What do guys go for. I swim, love music, kind of shy, love baseball, tennis, most of the sports, tall but slightly chubby (just medium size), caring, friendly, love the outdoors (camping, hiking etc.) Love the rain, A and B student, and enjoy a nice walk in the park. Are any of these quality's what boys are looking for, just to be firends. Any suggestions? Thank You really appreciate you taking the time to read this!
2007-03-25 13:01:41 · 14 answers · asked by Baseball Lover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you can have guy friends just being you. You do not have to try and do things the guys will like. With the right personality, the guys will all want to hang around with you because you radiate friendliness. All the other stuff is secondary. Good luck!
2007-03-25 13:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh you sound like a resume. When you make friends with somebody is because there is some chemistry between the two people. Both people share some same interests. Nobody goes looking for a person who swims to becomes friends with. People becomes friend because they both share the same interest in swiming. You makes friends then you swim not the other way around. The interest enables you to becomes friends. That is it opens the door.
Guys like girls don't go looking for certain qualities. I mean they do but not in the sence you think of. It is not like we go around carying a shopping list of things we want on another person. Some people do and they fail because they have unrealistic expectations. I am who I am and I cannot live to somebody elses expectations. What you end up doing is saying hey, this person is close to what I was looking for. The important thing is that you click emotionally. For example my wife and I share a lot of the same things. We both love eating (we are not fat though). We both love science fiction. We both have the same enthusiasm about improving our live and a bunch of other stuff. We also have things that we differ on. I don't believe in the supernatural where as she does a bit. There are somethings I like working on that she has no interest in like programing and electronics. The idea here is that our differences are minor compare to our likeness.
On a different but related subject, it is very difficult to be friends with somebody of the same sex. For some reason it just doesn't work out all that well. My brother told me once that when it comes to girls, you are either involved or you are not. This friendship thing doesn't exist. Actually he use other words but I don't want to turn this thing sexual. He is partly right. Friendship between a man and a woman is too strong a word to use. Is more like a hightly valued aquaintance. There are things we men talk about that we do not with women and vice versa. Is a comfort thing. Just look it this way. When was the last time you heard bob said, Oh I'm going fishing with Marry. It just doesn't happen. You may be going fishing and Mary is going to be there but going fishing with marry is not happening.
Also, but not to be rude, the only time men care about grades is when they refer to cup size. The lower the grade the better. C better than A in our case. Men are not really all that interested with making "friends with girls" At least that is not what we set out to do.
Well, just use your interest to make friends. It sounds like you should fit right in with the guys which all the sport thing. Being friends with a girl is more of she doesn't want to be my girlfriend or we have zero interest in her. This doesn't mean that guys won't be friendly towards you or not be respecfull. What I'm saying is that any friendship between a man and a woman at a platonic level will never be as good or as strong as people of the same sex. Something to think about.
2007-03-25 20:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An older gentleman was standing at a bus stop, observing a young man with orange, green, and blue spiked hair. After a few moments, the young man said, "what's the matter, old man, haven't you ever done anything wild?" The old man smiled and said, "Well, yes. I once had sex with a parrot, and I was wondering if you might be my son."
Most guys are looking for more,they want benefits to go along with the friendship not necessarily a commitment or ties.
2007-03-25 20:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by Scuba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys would go for a girl like you as a friend. You have some really good qualitys like sports. Finding a girl that enjoys sports is not easy.
2007-03-25 20:07:32 · answer #4 · answered by moehaddad27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have alot of male friends.. but my best male friend is a gay man. Just make sure that the boys know you only want friendship and nothing else right up front.
2007-03-25 20:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say since you like the outdoors take him somewhere outdoors swiming frisbe golf somthing like that being outdoors never seems like a date to me. i would stay away from night time drinking.
2007-03-25 20:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who goes by the name baseball lover must be awesome.
Don't let any of these guys be pricks to you.
2007-03-25 20:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kermit renversant de corporation 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ill be your friend i have plenty of female friends so if you want e-mail me at kingdesmond1@yahoo.com
2007-03-25 20:06:56 · answer #8 · answered by anymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from what I've seen and my own life's experience... don't make a guy friend unless you're prepared for him to fall for you.
2007-03-25 20:05:06 · answer #9 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, I'll be your friend...but I'm in china so we just have to email pen pals ok? I
2007-03-25 20:05:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋