I'm married to an only child and have recently given birth to my in-law's only grandchild. My MIL has been the source of much anxiet for many years. Specifically, our biggest problem with her is that she's got a big mouth. The straw that broke the camel's back was her public announcement of our very early three week pregnancy. This was at her 60th birthday party. My husband asked her to keep the good news under wraps until the second trimester. We arrived at this decision based on our bumpy road to a healthy pregnancy. I had 3 consecutive tubal pregnancies durring the 18 month period prior to our successful in-vitro pregnancy with our daughter. Needless to say, the pregnancy thing was a very delicate issue with us. So, we walk into the party and she introduces us to the crowd and announces the pregnancy. But it didn't end here. Throughout the course of the party, there were complete strangers who approached me and seemed to know my entire fertility history.
2007-03-25 12:58:01 · 12 answers · asked by Kelly H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to sit down with your husband, and have a very frank discussion. You both have to agree to not ever tell your Mother - In - Law anything of your personal lives, again. It may be very difficult for him as he is an only child, and probably has told her everything since he was a little boy. You have to realize that once in a while, he is going to slip up, and reveal something that he shouldn't. Don't get (too) mad, with him, just remind him not to say anything from time to time. You might even develop a "code word", that if he appears to be starting to say something he shouldn't, you say the code word, to remind him.
2007-03-25 13:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you should cut her some slack on this one. It sounds to me that she was just so thrilled at the prospect of you being pregnant that she just blurted it out at her birthday party. If she had no trouble conceiving, then she likely has no idea how you feel about all you have been through. Please give her a hug and tell her you are so happy that she is thrilled about the baby. She will make a great doting grandma.
2007-03-25 13:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard, but some people do not have lives of their own and feel as if they must get attention any way they can. Just try to consider the source, and the next time, do not tell her anything until you are ready for everyone else to know. Congratulations on your new baby.
2007-03-25 13:02:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was very rude of her.... I have been married twice.. My first mother in law was HORRIBLE... the second was wonderful...She is the only thing I miss from that marriage.. Im sorry that you have to deal with that.. My advice would be to deal with her as little as possible and dont tell her anything you dont want the whole world to know.
2007-03-25 13:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by nease174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever tell her anything u don't want the whole world to know. obviously she got a big mouth. if u get pregnant again, keep it to yourself until 2nd trimester and u announce it to everyone at the same time.
2007-03-25 13:03:03 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the adventure that your mom in regulation isn't mentally in great condition i think of you may talk to your husband for her therapy.it truly is thoroughly unfair which you would be able to artwork each and all the time interior the kitchen. you're an informed female and additionally you may use your practise. you may come across a activity and enable your concepts get busy for as a lot time you may. a minimum of for that many hours your concepts will experience comfortable. my mom additionally had to stand the comparable challenge as you're and she or he opted the comparable determination. i think of you may choose for it. and dont hear to the nonsenses they talk. you may attempt for all your freedom and pleasures and delight because of the fact the is the only age to steer the life. see you later and shield your self.
2016-12-19 13:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just not tell her anything at all. Until, she learned to keep stuff quiet. That is really the only you could do in this situation without creating more drama with her. Good luck and congrats on your little one.
2007-03-25 13:03:46 · answer #7 · answered by ~Miss~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her anything you dont want the whole world to know. Make sure your husband keeps things private too.
2007-03-25 13:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't share any private news with her in the future unless you want it broadcast to the entire world!
2007-03-25 13:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Yahoo Con 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT'S YOUR OWN FAULTS FOR CONFIDING IN A KNOWN BLABBER MOUTH-MABEY NOW YOU LEARNED? YOU JUST STATED SHE HAS BEEN THE SOURCE OF ANXIETY FOR MANY YEARS!
2007-03-25 13:09:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋