how do you forgive a guy who broke your heart and left you crying yourself to sleep
2007-03-25 12:41:36 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Breaking up with someone isn't a crime. Maybe in 1953 it was but now we're all able to explore our options and make sure we're making the right choices. I think it's imortant for everyone to excersize this ability.
It would have been worse for him to stay with you when he was feeling unsure. If all he did was break up with you than I say - put him on probation and find out what he's about these days (if that's what your heart tells you) --- BUT if the breakup (or time before) was harsh and cruel than maybe you better give it some more thought.
2007-04-01 13:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive a man that breaks your if you want to over time. Don't force yourself to forgive just because there's a possibility that you might still be in love with him. Speaking from experience I have had my heart broken still new a year now, the tears will eventually stop as long as their's strength from within and you have to tell yourself that you will not allow him to get the best of you. Questions that you can ask yourself is he worth your tears, can you forgive and are you going to be angry for the rest of your life? Because you don't make a conscious choice to get over your broken heart then you will not have the ability to forgive.
2007-04-02 12:40:17 · answer #2 · answered by Patty C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Sweetie .. never vomit and go back and eat it..
meaning that if something occured and you guys broke up .. and now he has the nerve to crep back 11 mos later.. no..
He already went had another relationship or ran the streets and now he wants you to be with him after breaking your heart.. its up to you..
so times it is better to just move on to something different.. cant teach a old dog new tricks.. and if he didnt care about your feelings .. for 11 mos.. that should tell you alot..
now if he was in jail.. then maybe.. but now you have to wonder did he have a partner there..
think it through and weigh your option..
opening a old wound is not always good..
Good luck
2007-03-25 12:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by Krystal K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting question.
I understand how you feel. It depends on if you are over him or not. If you still love him, then it's natural for you to want to be with him. Is he talking to you because he wants to get back together?
Maybe he realized that he does love you. You could see how the relationship goes and if you're willing to forgive, then it might be worth it. Of course, forgiving someone doesn't happen in a day. As long as he apologizes for hurting you, then it might work. 11 months is a long time. But, time is different for everyone.
My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago and I can tell that he's moved on. I, on the other hand, cling to him hoping that he'll change his mind. I know it's not healthy for me to do that. And I know him well enough to realize that he is over me. I've cried nearly every day since. Right now, I wish I was in your position. It would be easy for me to get back together with him because I'm still hurting. But because it's been so long for you, I understand your hesitance. Why did he break up with you in the first place? And why does he think this time is any different? You could give it a shot, but it's honestly up to you. I don't know you, nor do I know the whole situation so it's hard for me to just give you an answer. I don't want to impose my beliefs on you because I am not in your shoes right now. I can only give you advice.
The best thing to do is to talk to him. Communication is important in relationships. Find out his feelings and tell him yours. What do you both want from the relationship? It's best to start out with complete honesty.
Trust your instincts. I truly hope everything works out.
Good luck.
2007-03-25 12:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it will be hard for you to forgive him but it is the right thing to do. I don't know the details of the relationship, but I do know that he was wrong by leaving you for that long. You are probably a great person and since he could handle living without you for so long he can go the rest of his life then. You deserve better hun!!!! Good Luck.
2007-03-25 12:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. I cried over an ex for 7 months. I cried all I wanted, sang, dance wrote poems, hung out with friends and shopped. Let yourself have a good cry everyonce in a while and occupy yourself
2007-03-25 12:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to forgive him? If not, he'll just have to live with the fact that he was a jerk and maybe he'll behave better in the future because of you.
2007-04-02 12:31:58 · answer #7 · answered by abakerchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he asked for forgiveness? You should have acted friendly but aloof when he deigned to return. It's still not too late, especially if he has not shown proper respect.
2007-04-02 12:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by jackbutler5555 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forgive him. Just take him back, then dumped him about a week later and wait 11 months to talk to him again.
2007-03-25 12:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
you absolutely do not forgive him he is not worth your time and you are so much more deserving you forget him and never worry about him again
2007-04-02 10:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋