Dude broke up with me said he was scared, confused, and didn't know what he wanted. He e-mailed me a couple of weeks later ( he works away from home) about nothing and we have started talking. he said that he was scared and overwhelmed at the thought of moving our relationship forward because he was afraid I would get sick of him and leave. He also says he misses me, but he needs time to get his life organized ( he recently changed jobs). He kept reminising about "old times" with me, so I believe him. Is there any way I can convince him not i wouldn't turn psycho on him? We've never fought or anything. ( When we were dating--he even told me I was too good to be true). Is there anything I can do to keep him from being so afraid? I told him to do what he needed to do for himself, so I'm not pressuring him at all. Any ideas guys?
2007-03-25 12:36:18 · 6 answers · asked by not active 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have already done what you need to do. You told him "take your time" "no pressure" That what he needs to hear and have happen. guys are very insecure (way more than women) take your time with him and let him be. He'll love you all the more for it and give you the respect that you need tenfold in return.
2007-03-25 12:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Gwynny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Base on this guys current state I would judge he is not someone you want to be dating (unless something tramatic happened that he didnt tell you about). It seems that this guy has a lack of confidence with women (do you think that could be the case). Do you know anything about his previous relationships? It seems to me this guy has confidence issues that only he can fix. If he is concerned that you would leave him chances are he doesnt have enough confidence and doesn't deserve to be with you. Because he has tried to keep in touch I think he is weakly trying to tell you that he still has feelings. Personally, I think you should try to be friends with him or drop him.
2007-03-25 19:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by twid392™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a little space, kind of like a friend. Then while at the same time start casual conversations with other guys, especially if you are hanging out with him with other people. It will make him think twice and possibly reconsider.
2007-03-25 19:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about going psycho on him? Does, "I love you, so I ran away" sound like he's not psycho?
You got a nutter on your hands, and they will jerk your emotions around until you don't know who you are anymore if you let them.
2007-03-25 19:43:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep reminding him hes the only one.And do lots of things together to show him and so he wont think about it.I hope i helped
2007-03-25 19:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by nice_gentle2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry he has to get over his fears and insecurities --- just be yourself and be there for him --- you dont have to do anything to move the relationship forward --- it will happen at its own pace and dispite anything you do ---- best wishes to you both
2007-03-25 19:46:38 · answer #6 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋