this guy likes me but i don't like him...all his friends know that he likes me...i don't want to tell him i don't like him because i will embarres him when his friends find out i don't like him and i don't want him to get hurt or anything...what do i do?
2007-03-25 12:19:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should probably get him alone and let him down gently. And by gently I don't mean saying "maybe later". If you do not say anything, it will prolong the inevitable and may even get worse when it happens. The truth of the matter is that he is stronger than what you think, if you tell him sooner than later. He will, most likely, be saddened, but he will get over it. If he is "led" on or has any hope in him that you do like him, imagine if he deludes himself and his friends into thinking you like him, only to embarrass himself later on. Just remember:
(1) Be honest and straightforward
(2) Don't pity him -- that's far more embarrassing for a guy
(3) Try to do it gently and alone, so he can take it in by himself without his friends watching.
2007-03-25 12:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by crusader4177 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that you do not like him as a person. You just do not want to be his girl friend like that, and that is ok. It is good that you care enough to have compassion for him that it will hurt his feeling. I applaud you for that!
There is no simple way to get around this because so many people think of it as rejection when it is simply a non attraction to someone who is attracted to someone who is not attracted to them by no fault of either person.
It just does something to some people. One way to get people to understand what it feels like is for them to imagine the most hideous person liking them and them being forced to be with that person just because that person feels that way.(Not a good position to be in-is it?)
You are going to have to get that person to realize that it is not personal, but you are exercising your rights and feelings and it is just that you do not feel that way toward him. I do not know why people today are so controlling and unaccepting that people other than them have choices and when it is the same good and when it is not get over it!
Perhaps this will be a light way to do it:
" Hi ______, I really appreciate your interest, but right now, I am interested else where and right now that internal thing what ever it is called has me attracted else where." Because you are a great guy, I hope you can understand because I know that if a nice girl felt that way about you, but you did not feel that way about her-you would feel awful as I do, but know that the right thing to do is to be honest with her as I am being honest with you".
If you think that he can not mentally handle rejection, seek a counselor.
Good luck!
2007-03-25 19:46:35 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie I know you dont mean to hurt anyones felings, but you have to be honest with this boy and yourself. Just tell him how you feel in the nicest way you know how and then try to make him feel better by becoming freinds. See if you too have anything in common. Who knows, you might just fall for this boy. If you ever ned me email me at cherriesrmine2006@yahoo.com
2007-03-25 19:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by ~N3VA W0ULD HAV3 MAD3 IT~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to be honest for your sake as well as his. You have to let him to know how you feel. It could end up hurting or embarrassing you in the long run if you dont tell him.
2007-03-25 19:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by snene06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. The longer you wait, the more he thinks you're playing hard to get. Hurry up and get it over with. I hope this helps
nicole
2007-03-25 19:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull him aside and tell him that you're not interested. tell him that if he likes you as much as he seems, he'll be happy with being JUST a friend.
2007-03-25 19:24:51 · answer #6 · answered by cheeser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him secretly
2007-03-25 19:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋