over if he didnt get help. he pretty much laughed in my face. i havent spoke to him since but he started sending me emails(they are just forwards like jokes ect.) and i want to cut off all contact with him so he knows i am serious. what do i do?
2007-03-25 12:13:06 · 9 answers · asked by 1st-time-mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
please dont reply if you are jsut going to say "oh how awful that you cut your dad out of yourr life blah blah blah" because this has ruined 3 years of my life and i refuse to let him mess up my life anymore.
2007-03-25 12:14:02 · update #1
I have a father that is an alcoholic also. It is a very hard thing, i am 35 and it still affects me. If you really need to cut off all contacts to him, you could email him a note that you are very serious about staying away till he really gets himself help and to please stop trying to make any contact including emails. Then you can put a block on his address, to make sure they stop. I am not sure of the history in your family and circumstance that surround your dads alcohol problem - but if you love him and think you would like to be a part of his life ( if he does "really" get help ) Let him know that. Let him know that you will be there if he decides to get the help he needs. Unless this is not something you plan on doing even with help.I wish you luck, i know it is sooo hard on ones family.
2007-03-25 12:25:53 · answer #1 · answered by ***35*** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey. I listen in which you are coming from - and that i do agree that this man turns out to have come over all misty-eyed on the sight of his grandson. No doubt he thinks that little man is how one can your daughter's center, too...however not anything so effortless, is it? You're really proper to suppose protecting: it is only common that you're going to. I doubt there may be a lot you'll (or must) do related to your spouse's opinion, considering the fact that any choice she makes has to return from her. Regarding your youngster, I'd be vigilant and spot whether or not there relatively IS any unhealthy behaviour out of your FIL. Like you are saying, drunks normally fall off the wagon once more at a second's become aware of, however be certain you do not pre-empt any errors on his side - that is in which men and women will blame YOU as an alternative of him. Unfortunately, you ought to see the way it is going and permit him MAKE the mistakes he is gonna make earlier than you step in and say 'I do not wish this.' Who is aware of? If he maintains to be best, you may also on no account ought to, that's all well. If he DOES reduce to rubble, despite the fact that, it should simply be the evidence your spouse demands that he nonetheless hasn't transformed, after which you'll have a concrete rationale to propose that you simply distance yourselves from them for the sake of your son. It sounds bloodless-hearted, however I'm afraid that what you ought to do is stand again and wait and spot if the man messes up! Only then will you have got your reply as as to whether your spouse and your son might be greater off with out him or no longer. If there may be some thing that begins which might DIRECTLY have an impact on your son (no longer simply possibly) you then get in there and say you are no longer having it. Until then... watch their house! Hope this is helping, and I do recognize you for being insightful ample to look what your spouse are not able to/would possibly not. She's rattling fortunate to have a man such as you watching out for her :)
2016-09-05 15:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by kindle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy you finally took the adult approach. There is no reason why you have to live a life of h e l l just because your sperm donor is an A H. See if you can block his email address from your email account. There is no reason why you should have to have any contact with him. There is no doubt in my mind that you are doing the right thing. Your parents have no right to ruin your life just because they wish to ruin theirs.
2007-03-25 12:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alcoholism ruins lives. Period.
I hope some computer pro's answer this question. There HAS to be a way to have his e-mails returned to him automatically with an auto message stating that that e-mail address no longer exists or something.
Write to your provider, see what they would suggest. On yahoo mail, you can press "spam" and all messages will be directed to your "junk" folder.
Good luck to you, I think you're doing the right thing. No longer can you be an enabler.
2007-03-25 12:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just delete the e-mails, then block his address. If he calls, hang up. If he shows up on your door step, don't answer. If he shows up at your work, get security to escort him out. If he is truly a bad influence in your life cut him out like you would a malignant tumor. Actions speak louder than words. Let your actions SCREAM, and let your mouth be silent.
2007-03-25 12:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
getting a new email ,phone number and stuff like that is all i know anyone can do to cut someone out there life ........ i had to do it twice now and my life is getting better and better
2007-03-25 12:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by thomas g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried family counseling....Maybe he needs an intervention and maybe he won't think it is a joke anymore. Let him know how much u love him and how much it hurts you. Tell him he can no longer be in your life unless he gets help..Good luck
2007-03-25 12:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by **~~ShAwTy Is ThE sHiT~~** 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well let him know that you don't play around about this kind of stuff......block him from any contacts he can comunicate to you by.let him know that to you this is not a jokin matter.
2007-03-25 12:21:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
even though your dad did take what you said serious, you should still try to help him. i know what you are going threw.
2007-03-25 12:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by jadaboo 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋