Advice on boyfriends?

Question

Ok, I'm 14 years old. I'm not popular, I'm not skinny. I have a pretty face, and I'm a bookworm marching band girl. All of my (skinny, beautiful, popular and smart) friends have or have had boyfriends. I am pretty much just 'one of the guys' as far as my guy friends go. I have a lot of guy friends, one of them is my best friend. But the thing is, my guy friends always ask out my girl friends. Trust me, I don't see them as boyfriend types. But, I want other guys to see me as a girl, not just one of the guys. Help me?

Answer 1

Hello I am 23 years old and at your age I was you. I always was one of the guys and sometimes I still am. As I grew up I have realize that I was never going to be skinny and I was not going to be popular. But I could be feminine. I don't mean sexy but feminine. When I turned 15 I decided that I would wear heels, earrings, etc. As I did all of this my body began to develop not into a skinny chick but a chick that was confident an sassy.

You may not be 15 yet but you can dress in a way that show everyone that you love being a woman. That confidence is what will get the guys.

Love yourself first and the guys will follow.

Answer 2

Hey! I'm not 14 anymore, but I can certainly remember that time of my life. I was the female "jock" and I was a bookworm marching band type too. I was always one of the guys and never the "girlfriend". In a way that was cool and fun but I know how it is comes school dance time when you seem like the only one without a date. My advice would start with not worrying about it too much b/c your only 14. I know you don't see it this way, but things will change as you get older. Hanging out with the guys can have it's perks, especially later in life.

Secondly, Have you tried talking to your girl friends and even your male friends and asking what they think about you and the situation? I mean, maybe your girl friends can hook you up with someone. My girl friends used to play dress up, with me being the doll, but it made all of the guys take a 2nd look at me. My guy friends used to tell me what I was doing wrong as far as "what would make them be interested in me as a girlfriend and not just as a friend." I always got the I would date you, but... speech. Some of the things that they said did help me though.

I hope some of this helps. You will have a boyfriend someday. Get with your girlfriends and watch what they do differently when they are around boys. Watch how they talk to them, approach them, show interest, etc... That will help you too.

Answer 3

Well, you are a little young... In the next couple of years no one will be able to ignore your lady like figure which will be bubbling out of you. Give it a little time.

Seriously, you are just a little girl. You don't need a boyfriend at this age, what would even be the purpose. Girls normally want boyfriends cause they make them feel good. Maybe they want someone to kiss and that is about it. There is ust no point.

A little patience will change everything.

Answer 4

Any potential bf guy would be so scared to approach you coz of your bodyguards (your guy friends). Fine, hang out with them but at the same time, hang out with the girls too. You have got to be identified as female in your own right for the other guys to take notice. The distancing from your guy friends need not happen overnight --- do it slowly --- change your image "one of the guys" to the real you - a pretty 14 yr.old girl....stay cool.

Answer 5

don't worry about it. All of your skinny friends will break up with their boyfriends. Most relationships don't make it through high school anyways. My advice is to keep building strong friendships, and then one day one of those guys will see you at a dance and be like "wow when did she get so pretty"

Answer 6

Hmmm..try being flirty, wearing pretty things (accessorize) and wear things that catch guys attention. Use proper language and if a guy teases you, be like "Stoopppppp" and smile and have a little flirty attitude. I'm sure they'll recognize you as a girl now =]

Answer 7

Don't worry so much about boys while you're in high school. Have fun and be yourself, there's plenty of time for all of the complicated crap in your 20s...trust me. And high school guys are completely shallow, they don't even know what they really want yet but they THINK that it comes in a "perfect" package.

P.S. And don't think there's anything wrong with being "one of the guys". My boyfriend used to really hurt my feelings before we were dating, because we would hang out all the time and he would refer to me as one of the guys...well, I needn't have let it bother me because he asked me out as soon as things were over with his ex...

Answer 8

Flirt! Don't go around giving people noogies, go around showing off your stuff!

Don't rush into relationships. Wait for the right ones and it'll be better. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't rush at those nasty sharks, wait for your Nemo.

Good luck, I hope this helps

nicole

Answer 9

things were like just that for me, and out of no where i was asked out by a guy who i didn't even know knew English let alone my name. he was so good at covering the fact that he liked me that when he asked i thought he was joking. which means there could be a guy that likes you but too shy to tell you. you probably heard this a billion times and don't think its true but there is someone out there for you and you'll find him when your least expecting it. you'd be surprised

Answer 10

Ok this is what you do. Hang around at the park look around and see it there is a HOTT guy and if he is REALLY nice. then BAM! ask him out. Make sure you know his age though tee hee hee. o also juat hang around at the mall you can meet alot of guys there. someday you will find a sweet guy then marry him lolz.