I've been seeing this guy and we've really been getting along well. We both have the same feelings for each other (or so he says), but we're not yet 'going steady'. I really want for us to be in a relationship and I'm pretty sure he wants the same thing, but he hasn't offcially asked me to be his girlfriend. I'm not sure if he's afraid to ask me, or if maybe he just doesn't want a relationship. Should I ask him or wait it out?
2007-03-25 12:08:16 · 21 answers · asked by Christy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you need to be asked ? Do you need to ask ? Aren't you there already ? What do you think you need to be "officially" his girlfriend? If you are getting along well, then why not let that be how it is.....even if that is just for now ? Why inject more pressure into a young love right now ?
You have feelings and he has said he has the same ones for you. That might well be enough for now. You two could simply use this time to get to know each other on deeper levels - learn to trust, learn to communicate, learn to care, learn to compromise, learn to be together. If things go well, he may ask you to "go steady" (do you still do that?) in the future or it just may be the way things are. (He may not be the kind of guy who "official asks" someone to be his girlfriend or asks her later "to go steady"....he may be kind of guy who just does it. Only you will know.)
If you two go on this well together but then you find he is still playing the field with others, then you know he is not ready to commit to a "steady" relationship. If he is, then asking him isn't going to make a difference. If he isn't, it won't make any difference either.
It sounds like you are lucky enough to have a good friend and a good relationship. Enjoy it and let it grow on its own. You have little to gain by asking him.
2007-03-25 12:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have two options wait it out if you want, but don't wait to long you owe it to yourself to set a limit on how long your willing to wait for a commitment, because the reality is that sometimes as much as you like a person it just may never come,or just ask him if . he says no lick your wounds and move on you deserve to be in the type of relationship that meets your needs , he may really enjoy spending time with you but might not feel your the one just yet , either way don't sweat it to much I've been there even if you take no action time will reveal all
2007-03-25 19:19:48 · answer #2 · answered by farra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is sweet... you should ask him.. get it over with.. and do it alone.. in a letter an email.. im something ok.. if you wait he may never ask.. he is proly trying to wait for the perfect time.. and he cant spot it..lol so at first try and pull it out of him.. ask him dateing questions and such.. talk about that topic. if he doesnt ask then slip it in a funny way.. "so why havent you ask me out yet?" that should do the trick.. he then might not know what to say.. so then just put the words in his mouth.. "so you want me or not" always smile.. good luck
hey let me know how it works out
2007-03-25 19:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Icebreaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him....maybe he just got out of a bad relationship before you and is scared of getting hurt again. Best bet is to lay your cards on the table..if you wait to long he might not think you want to really be with him and he'll start hte process of moving on.
2007-03-25 19:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait. Show through your actions that you are open to an invitation to go steady and he may relax and be able to ask you.
2007-03-25 19:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by cudancegirl1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Maybe start off the conversation in a joking, flirty way, such as, "So, when are you going to ask me to be your girlfriend.?" That should start the conversation off on the right note.
2007-03-25 19:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by ajc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I would do is, wait it out for a while--like two weeks or something, and ask my friends if they can find out if he was going to ask me out soon. If the feedback is positive, I'd wait it out for him to ask me out. But if the signs were unclear I'd go ahead and ask him myself.
2007-03-25 19:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by LalaLola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him no good will come from not knowing then getting your heart broken
if he says no then ask him what have you two been up to this whole time?
if he says yes then awesome take the night out!
2007-03-25 19:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Jess ♥ I dream, I wish, I love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him now... he may be afraid of the initial action, so its up to you to take your relationship to the next level.
I sense that he may be afraid of committment for now... =(
2007-03-25 19:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait awhile and if you cant stand it anymore than you can comfront him and let him know how you fell about your relationship with him. let him know you love him and want to go to the next level
2007-03-25 19:12:24 · answer #10 · answered by kamaria d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋