Do you think I owe my girlfriend's friend an apology? I don't think I do?

Question

I was setting up extra chairs in the living room for a little get-together the other day---all while Sarah, my girlfriend's friend, sat and did nothing. As I sat up the last chair, I looked at her with a smirk, saying, "Yeah, don't help out or anything."

"A real man wouldn't need help," she retorted, a cocky expression on her face.

I said, "Well, I'm sorry, Sarah. But not all men are built like you."

My girlfriend thinks I should apologize. But I don't think I have anything to be sorry for.

Answer 1

That's pretty funny. I'd talk to her and make sure she wasn't offended, if only in the name of keeping peace in your relationship.

Answer 2

You Didn't Have to set up the Chairs

So you Do a good thing & someone else just sits there

You Could just be proud of yourself & Let it be

Coulda Said You Can help if ya want too

But if she's Gonna make a negative statement

It would prolly Get to her more if you'd just be nice
Say, "it's Ok (& Make an excuse for her)
Maybe your just not up for it , I Got it"

She'd respect you More even if she acted Like she didn't or like she hated you more

As Far as the apoligy
Go For it, That would be real Hard to Do
& Thats what Makes a Man A Man
Tell Her You Didn't necessarilly apritiate Her response,
But That Your Sorry you Came Back w/ a Negative response too, & That ya just want everybody to Get along

She May be suprised
& She may Come back w/ something Negative or Bad
But ur G/F Will see it & Side w/ You & Admire your Maturity

ppl see when your Doing rt & others arn't helping
& Who's the Good Guy & Who's the Leacher

Meek is Not week, It's Very Hard to be meek
Jesus Made an excuse for his crucifyers
Father , Forgive them For they Know Not what They Do

He Coulda Copped an Attitudre & Called 10,000 Legions of Angels & stopped the Thing or wiped them Out

Do it For your G/F
"Sorry My Reaction Was a Reaction that could esculate
The Negativity (Kinda Says she was being Neg 1st)
I Just want us all to Get along &
Have a Positive experience w/ eachother
(or something o That effect)
Like; "& Be Friends"

Answer 3

Be the bigger person and apologize for the bad feelings between you. I may not agree with what others choose to do but, unless it is my children or they are infringing on others rights, it's none of my business. You shouldn't have said anything in the first place, meaning the problem only existed because of your perception of the situation and how you chose to handle it.

By apologizing, you show your girlfriend that you are able to work through problems as a reasonable person and she will be less irritated when you make mistakes in the future (you know you will, we all do). This give-and-take is far more valuable than standing your ground on this issue which is petty at best.

I apologize in advance if I have offended in any way.

Answer 4

I hate to go all "school yard" on you, but you started it. You sound like my mother. She is always trying to make everyone feel guilty for not doing things that she never asked them to do in the first place. If you wanted help setting up the chairs, you should have politely asked. Don't be so passive-aggressive and apologize.

Answer 5

Sarah was a guest, so your original comment was out of line. You should apologize for expecting a guest to help you. She got her own back with her snappy retort.

Answer 6

Letting her slap you and thinking of it as lovable is a sprint on the ill area. She has no appreciate for you because of the fact of it. the conventional public nut blow would desire to be the main suitable financial ruin in this undesirable affair. Are you kidding with this "Am I incorrect?" If everyone owes everyone an apology, this is her apologizing to you.

Answer 7

I think you should apologize, you were plain rude. You started the whole silly exchange with a smirk, she was under no obligation to help you, you didn't really need help.
Remark about her build was rude. You have some growing up to do.

Answer 8

Not apologize, but maybe if the issue is still important enough, acknowledge that Sarah might have felt offended.
Kind of like, sorry the thing happened, but not sorry for what you said :-) Wish I could be more specfic. While I've been the recipient of such 'sorries', haven't tried 'em myself.

Answer 9

Arguments are rarely about what they're about.
In the long run you two are going to be in a psychological power struggle with your girlfriend in the middle. You may as well stand your ground now and see where your girlfriend stands. You'll just speed up whatever's inevitable.

Answer 10

You dont need to apologise.

The fact that you were able to come up with a smart retort is to your credit.

The only problem is that you've made your gfs friendship with her (admittedly dreadful) friend difficult.

So for your gfs sake you might apologise insincerely.

Answer 11

sounds like she's the one who should have apologized, though you chose the most antagonistic way to put things - I'd say you both might want to try being nicer to each other - she should have been helping without being asked, and such snippy comments seem to belong in a sibling rivalry, not a loving relationship between people who should be friends.