How do you handle a mean sister?

Question

My sister, Andrea, is really mean to me. We used to be really close and would get along pretty well, occasionally fighting as all sisters do. But lately things have changed...

Andrea is calling me a jerk and a retard just because I stayed in my room reading a magazine instead of socializing with some adults at my mom's dinner party last night. She said that I should break up with my boyfriend because I don't deserve him and she says that I need help and that I"m a freak. She is constantly insulting me and I tell this to her but she just says that I'm parnaoid and that I can't handle anything, that I'm weak and sensitive.

I'm really freaked out right now and I don't know what to do. I want to have a good relationship with Andrea but she doesn't seem to like me or even love me anymore. She's been insulting and mean to me for about two weeks now.

Answer 1

Get your boyfriend to help you and put a live frog in her bed.

Answer 2

Mean Sister

Answer 3

There isn't much you can do. Just be happy with yourself and who you are. Ignore her that will irritate her more than anything. When she starts saying how wonderful she is just simply smile and say that's nice sis. When she throws out math equations look puzzled and respond "Well I'm not sure. Could you teach me how to figure it out?" Don't be ignorant about it but act like your interested in finding out. Perhaps she'll grow out of it and someday you two will get along well. I'm 23 and my sister is 26 and she acts the way your sister does. The saddest part is she has 4 kids, is divorced, has never held a job, lives w/ our mother and little sister. (in fact our mother takes care of her kids) where as I am in college, have a good job, own a rental property, and am in a wonderful marriage. Its just life. You could also try the approach of talking to her and asking her to stop so someday you two can be friends.

Answer 4

I have no sisters but have three daughters.
I think Andrea has a problem with something - but do not let her make it your problem. She is at this point in time I feel a very sad person for making your life miserable.
I know it is hard - but you must do what you wish to do - never mind her - let her be - she will hopefully come around in time.
Alternatively - you could just ask her what her problem is - have a family meeting and talk things over with your parents as well.
Be Positive - we are all different - and have to put up with slights and hurtful things - it is hard when you live together - so - I would honestly talk things over within the family and see if some solution can be found.

Love & Light
Jacqueline O

Answer 5

RE:
How do you handle a mean sister?
My sister, Andrea, is really mean to me. We used to be really close and would get along pretty well, occasionally fighting as all sisters do. But lately things have changed...

Andrea is calling me a jerk and a retard just because I stayed in my room reading a magazine instead of socializing with...

Answer 6

You should talk to your parents. Something is wrong with your sister. You do not mention her age. Maybe she is doing drugs. Maybe she has a problem coping with something at school or a at home and turns it around on you. Either way it's not fair and your parents need to help you sort out her aggressions. Also, it sounds like she is jealous of you for some reason.

Answer 7

um I don't know why she is being mean, but I can say that maybe she is jealous of something you have that she wants, it could be that she is associating with people who are filling her head up with some of this crap, or she just thinks that she is grown and she can treat you how she wants because she is your sister, well ignoring her isn't the way cause that's not going to solve anything, I tell my sister, that I demand a level of respect and I won't take nothing less, and eventually she gets it, I tell her you will not talk to me any kind of way, I say it in love but with authority, becaus she will see I don't role like that, I think that there could be that she is mad at something and taking it out on you, but regardless you will not be treated any kind of way, talk to her, if she won't listen talk to me
cause I won't settle for less, cause I am worth it and so are you, you and us all deserve better.

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Answer 8

I think Andrea is mad at you for some reason that she has maybe discussed with you but she has still not resolved in her own mind. I'm suspicious that she is having some envious feelings about your relationship with your boyfriend. Come up with some standard reply for when she insults you but don't make it provocative - every time she insults you, say the same thing: 'Yeah, duly noted. Got it. Thanks' and pretend to let it slide off your back. Eventually she will realize that you tune her out. You have to make the effort to really tune her out yourself and just try to have as normal a relationship as possible. When she has a boyfriend she's happy with, she'll settle into a normal relationship with you again, I think. She does still love you; her envy is getting in the way. Keep being positive even while she is negative.

Answer 9

2 weeks? Keep your distance. Go about your life. Next time she bothers you, ask her why her life is so empty that she has to bug you all the time. Why don't you join a club or a group that can be all your own thing. Explore the options. At this time in your lives these things will happen. I am an older brother who made my younger sister miserable. Now we are very close and friends again.

Answer 10

Sisters and brothers always fight. The age of the participants has a lot to do with the type of fighting and the extremeness of the reactions.

Also, if she is older then she probably believes she has the right to boss you around and call you names, that is just something that comes with being the older sibling. If she is younger this is kind of weird.

Don't be freaked out.. I would just not take anything she says seriously. You do not have to take advice from her, or listen to her abuse. Lock her out of your room, and stay away from her. She is probably going through stuff that you do not know about or understand. Staying away is probably the bes thing for you long term relationship.

Answer 11

Sounds like she has some issues in her personal life andshe is taking it out on you. I dont know about your house hold but I had 4 brothers and sisters. When we had issues with each other our parents told us to take it outside and deal with it. Usually the one who started it and was the jerk got the whoopin. There were rules though, the first bloody nose and you better stop or dad stepped in.