Hey every one,
I am in a relationship, I love the guy I'm with. We've been together for awhile..The only problem is...lately I have been having this mixed thoughts about one of my ex's...My ex has a gf...but one day when I was out, I past by them & he couldn't keep he's eyes off me...even his girl was getting jelous (not to sound cocky, but seriously) anyways, I think I still have feeling for him...I don't know if I should just stick with the relationship I'm in now or maybe spill my feelings out to my ex...I dunno...I've tryed forgeting about him...but it just feels right to have these feelings for him...then again not...I'm so troubled...I don't want to hurt my bf...but I just don't know....Please help....
P.S. No rude comment's please...I don't care about them & it's just ignorent...be serious...I really need your help....
2007-03-25 11:15:43 · 15 answers · asked by Savanna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I have this strong feeling when I'm around my ex, that he still has feelings for me too...He looks at me in the hall ways, I can just see it in he's eyes.....We went out a few years back...I'm the one who dumped him...I was young..I didn't think I needed a serious relationship then....So yeah, I have a feeling that if I were to tell him how I felt about him, he would want to be with me.....I just feel evil in way....I'm a good person...This is just how I feel.....I don't want to regret it in the long run....Help......
2007-03-25 11:16:39 · update #1
Personally, I think you should tell your ex how you feel and end your relationship now. A guy can tell when you like someone else when you are with him and its not really fair to the guy you are dating to continue to date him when you really like someone else, even a little bit.
2007-03-25 11:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't really be in love with the guy you are currently in a relationship with, or there would be no others on your mind in that way. If it were me, and talking with your ex about it was possible and comfortable, I would do just that to find out how he feels, and what are the vibes you are getting from him. Explain why you dumped him, and about the mixed feelings you are having now. Don't hold your thoughts in, you could be wondering for a lifetime what could have been. Even if his response isn't what you wanted to hear, atleast you will be able to put it behind you. Don't leave chapters in your life unfinished. There is no worse feeling than carrying around the question, what I could have had, and I know from experience. In the mean time, don't be unfair to your current boyfriend. Let him know that you care about his feelings but you need for you two to take a break for you to take care of unfinished issues. If you are sure you don't love him, go ahead and set him free to find someone who can give him what he deserves. Cheating isn't just physical, so just be honest with him, and things will fall in to place.You can do it! Find out what your heart really wants!!!! I would really like to know whatever you decide. Life is not as complicated as we sometimes imagine it to be. You will feel much better about yourself if you are honest with both. Even if you end up without either one, the one you are with now prbably isn't ...THE ONE.... Life will show you many paths and I hope you choose to follow the ones that your heart longs for you to.
2007-03-25 11:59:15 · answer #2 · answered by BLONDIE67 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by kindle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would stay with the current guy I'm with now. If something happens between you two then try getting back with your ex. If you don't want to do that , end your relationship now and then tell your ex how you feel about him It will be better that way and you will have less pressure on your hands. Good luck to you.
2007-03-25 11:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by poetry_dreamer2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitley seems like you still have something with your ex and its special to you. Its something u havent gave up and it doesnt seem like your ready to. Its ok and normal to feel that way and he definitly seems like he never wanted to end things.But really you need to be careful bc your in a relationship..its ok to feel that way about him but to pursue it is a complete different situation. You want to make sure that you dont end up hurting your boyfriend. He would be more hurt if you snuck around rather than just tell him. Also I was in a situation like your before and my ex did the same thing. I thought that I had feelings for him when I was in a relationship but he did my ex led me on to thinking that so he can raise his ego.Just be careful and SINGLE if you plan on doing anything.
2007-03-25 11:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by quoia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think ex bf's need to remain ex bf's. If it didn't work out the first time, then there's a slim chance it will work out the second time. Of course you miss some things about him, but don't ruin what you have going for you now. There could have been a lot of things going through his head when he "looked" at you. That doesn't mean anything.
2007-03-25 11:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by xcura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! When you mention seeing each other in the halls, it sounds like you are still in school, which means you are still very young. Over the next few years you will no doubt have many boyfriends and many break-ups. It's a part of life. Follow your heart, but be cautious. In other words, be sensible about it. Weigh the pros and the cons and you should find the answer.
2007-03-25 11:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by Glenda M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think long and hard about your ex and whether you actually still have feelings or if it's just nostalgia. If it's not, then I'd spill. I wouldn't stay with your current boyfriend if you determine you have feelings for ex. It would not be fair to your current boyfriend or you; you'd be settling.
2007-03-25 11:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Susie Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to look at who you know better, who you trust, who you can see yourself with in the future. You dated this other guy a while back and he could be a completely different person then he was when you were with him.
2007-03-25 11:23:28 · answer #9 · answered by bangled_baby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it.. its not a good idea to keep your feelings bottled up inside, let your ex know how you feel and you'll do fine! You're both in a relationship so you both understand you're in a tough situation.
2007-03-25 11:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by 2kewl4skewl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋