ive known this girl forever and we've always been good friends.she crushed on me all throughout school and finally in high school i fell for her and we dated a little.she broke up with me after 4 months because "she didnt want to risk screwing things up because she thought it would affect our friendly relationship".that was soph year in high school and now im in my 2nd year of college and ive totally fallen for her again.only thing is she is with this guy who just blames her for everything/doesnt take responsibility for anything and i just feel like i can treat her so much better and shed be so much happier with me but she just wont let go of this guy!i know i could make her so much happier if she could just let this guy go but she just keeps going while i play the supporting best friend through thick and thin.what should i do?i think im really in love with her but most of all i just want her to be happy even if thats not with me and thats just it.she doesnt seem truely happy with him.
2007-03-25 11:12:57 · 9 answers · asked by pinksonthewing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have told her how i feel and she was confused at first. she wants this best friend relationship and thats cool i just wish i could have more. its not like i havent been looking for other girls, trust me i have been keeping my eyes open for a long time. i just feel like she knows me so well and i, her. i just feel like she could really put an end to her dysfunctional relationships if her and i were together. i could show her how she should be treated, and how fun a relationship can be. instead she chooses to have drama with her guy constantly and now even worse shes got an ex stalking her! i think ive just decided to stand beside her and be there for her when she needs support and hopefully she will figure out one day that ive been there all along and that i may be just what she wanted.....or im just living in a fairy tale and i just dont want to hear the truth.
2007-03-26 11:07:45 · update #1
Rule 1: Don't try to understand the opposite sex.
Rule 2: Do what's best for you.
If you're always there when she needs you, that's all she needs, right? You'd probably be supportive even if she goes out with a whole string of jerks. She's still got you, so she can get into as many dumb situations as she wants to experiment with, and you'll be there to make it all right.
Don't be a dope. Maybe she'll spend less time with jerks, once she knows that she has to face the consequences emotionally alone. Then, if she understands what you can really offer, she'll call you for the right reasons.
2007-03-25 11:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww. This is happening to me too!!!! I'm the girl in this, and thankfully I'm not dating an idiot. Like you mentioned before, I'm dating my best friend right now. I hope I don't break up with him. Okay so about the advice, i think you should tell her how you feel about her and about the idiot. I'm sure she would understand since you guys are best friends. I would listen to my best friend/bf in any circumstance because I know his judgement is something I take seriously.
2007-03-25 18:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by coffee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm maybe u should call her, ask her if its a good time, and if it is, let ur emotions about her spill out like u did on here. Say i respect ur decision for going out with this guy..but i see what he does to u. I could make u so much more happy. I wouldn't blame u for anything that was my fault. and so on. Good Luck!!!
2007-03-25 18:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Abby,,[[RAWR]] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just want something you can't have and that makes it more attractive to you. let her go.
Dude you're in college and there is tons of pie strolling past you on a daily basis. Get over the headcase and move on!!!
Good luck.
2007-03-25 18:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like love to me. Ask her if she is really fulfilled and just be there for her. Tell her you've got her back and you've always got an ear. If she isn't happy with him then go for it. It's better to love and lost then to never have loved at all.
2007-03-25 18:16:58 · answer #5 · answered by zanyacorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to lay off her a bit and show her you got a life of your own that doesnt include chasing after her, i think women prefer something that is harder for them to get and maybe you are making yourself to easy for her, like maybe the guy she likes at the moment could walk out on her at any minute and maybe has lots of other girls that like him so she feels like she has to try hard to keep him if you see what i mean.
2007-03-25 18:23:33 · answer #6 · answered by jean reno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the idiot?
Man, grow a pair and kick that user to the curb.
2007-03-25 18:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
help her and tell her how you feel. or just let her watch herself go to prison because her boyfriend blamed her for a murder
2007-03-25 18:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start have a joke and pop in there u like her is its a no say i was joking if a yes good on u
2007-03-25 18:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋