This girl and I have are close, she doesn't want a serious relationship even though we do things like a couple and she gets jealous when I talk to other girls. I don't flirt with other girls but she continually hangs out with this group that includes 2 older guys. She says nothing will ever happen btwn them. there is also another boy that really like her and text and calls her all the time and she text and talks back. When i talk to her about it she gets mad and says I have no reason to get upset. But if i did the same she would get mad. Is she playing all of us boys. What should i do?
2007-03-25 11:05:44 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes absolultely you should be upset. this person is using you.
She wants you to be available to her at all times and expects that you will not speak with other females, but her rules do not apply to her.
Not only should you be upset, you should end any and all relationship you have with her immediately. She is a user and will only hurt you repeatedly over time.
Also, when you end it, one of two things will happen:
1) She will get extremely angry and never want to speak to you again ( this is good )
2) She will confess that she truly cares for you and is ready to commit to you
If she goes for number two, BEWARE!!!! Users will use every trick in their possession to keep what they consider "theirs" and make no mistake, she consider you "hers" or she would not get jealous.
And remember, she talks to other boys, texts them and when you express your feelings about it, she does NOT respect your feelings enough to even give them credit. Therefore, she sees you as a possession and not a companion.
Ditch her. Do it fast and move on quickly. And remember, the girl of your dreams may walk by and ignore you because you are hanging out with this girl instead. Dont waste your time on her. RUN AWAY! NOW!
2007-03-25 11:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by cybrrgeek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about whole situation but it seems that she is controling you. Do u live together because that is just an other seperate situation. Once you live together you are considered boy firned and girl friends or even an official couple. A lot of people live together for years and they do not even have to get the official marriage certificate. They are already considered married in front of the law and have family and kids. When they get divorced they both get the same share as any married couples. As long as your are not living together in the same house, you are okay I guess!
2007-03-25 11:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by S.E.E.N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you tell her you don't want to see her anymore see what she says. I never understand why you guys don't just say. "Why are you acting this way?" It sounds like you want a relationship with her and are ok with just getting a little bit of her time even though she tells you it is just friends stuff. Take that away and see what she does. It also sounds like she is using you to make another guy jealous or to just make sure she is not by herself. Girls or guys who can't be by themselves are ones to avoid. That is just my personal experience.
2007-03-25 11:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by Deb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she's doing is acting possessive of you and not letting you have a life. My thoughts? She doesn't want you to leave her, but she doesn't want to get to serious. What I would do is ask her, seriously if she wants a relationship better than what you have. If she says no, again, say you need a break and live life on your own for a bit. Obviously, she's got plenty of others to play. Best of luck!
2007-03-25 11:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by zanyacorn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like she wants to have her cake and eat it too. You should already know how that works.. She definitley seems like she craves attention and she will try to control who ever is giving it to her to make her feel good about herself. You seem like you like her and thats a bit hard but to stop the games you either need to confront her or just do you, even if she gets mad! She will soon know your over it!
2007-03-25 11:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by quoia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might experience embarrassed regarding the "beating" humorous tale.. in spite of if, each little thing else sounds quite immature and clingy. i don't recognize if i might enable something like that worry me, and that i truthfully do no longer think of that is worth breaking apart over. sit down with him and think of of strategies this occasion won't happen interior the destiny, settle for his apology, and circulate on! i'm specific his intentions weren't to break your thoughts
2016-12-15 08:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by anirudh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should lay out the facts just like you did in this question. Let her know that she cannot have it both ways. You are not there to be dragged around by her. And when you say this to her let her know that you can always do better.:)
2007-03-25 11:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by Soren Lorenson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a lot of information, but it may have a simple solution: hook up with a girl that likes you to the point where you're not insecure, and treat her with the same respect.
2007-03-25 11:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you be upset? Youre not with her. You said it, she told you she doesnt want anything with you. Just act with her like a normal close friend. And if you want to go and flirt with other girls.........then go ahead. No one is telling you not to. Shes not your girlfriend, so who cares. Dont worry.
2007-03-25 11:10:46 · answer #9 · answered by Jazmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a one-on-one chat with her. Let her know how you feel when she's with the group. Hear what she has to say. If she continues, I suggest you move on and find someone who is able to reciprocate your feelings.
2007-03-25 11:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋