Hi ppl, first of all i need serious answers because this is a serious matter...I'm 17 years old,healthy,student and worker, well,you know,the usual...My problem is that in various occasions i had the chance to lose my virginity with girls but at the time of penetrate i just get very nervous and obviously lose my erection...
I seriously don't know what to do and it has happened to me with 4 girls already and seriously WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH ME?
If you know the reason for this and any solutions please tellme...
Hope to get some god ideas!
2007-03-25 10:45:49 · 14 answers · asked by Pablo C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Performance jitters, are a symptom of maturity, and if you can't control them you simply aren't ready to have sex. Wait until you are older and can handle it better emotionally.
2007-04-02 07:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't really ready yet. When you are, you'll feel comfortable and what you s=described wont keep happening. It may have something to do with your partners. You just may be one of those people who can't do casual sex. Nothing wrong with that. What's the rush? My little brother was nineteen when he lost his virginity, (don't tell him I told you this). It seems that men tend to lose theirs at an older age these days. I know quite a few men who waited until almost twenty years or more. Relax, it's the most natural and over done activity in the whole universe. You'll get your chance, trust me! :)
2007-04-02 17:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some God ideas? If that was a slip that you wrote, it may have been for a reason. God's plan for everyone is that they respect everyone and wait for the commitment of marriage before being sexually active. No guilt in marriage and an ability to create a child. The best sex is married sex. So no sex before marriage only leads to used people with histories, std's and unwanted children. When someone walks away from you after a sexual relationship it is like death and causes tears and shame.
2007-04-02 17:10:13 · answer #3 · answered by hot wheels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from what is called performance anxiety. It happens to some people and you shouldn't worry about it.
If you have a good steady relationship with a girl then she will be understanding and you will get more chances with her.
You should try other things such as taking care of each others needs orally, etc. Then just keep progressing. If at first you don't succeed, just try again.
2007-03-31 14:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by itsme2033 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
big deal, your not ready. sounds like you probley have a good moral background and it is going against the grain. there is no age limit to being a virgin, relax, nothing is wrong. when the time comes you will feel awkward, shoot your load to soon, and feel overall inferior to every other male you compare your self with. its natural. when you do bust the cherry, sex will probaly consume most of your waking thoughts. enjoy the journey for there is no destination. man spends 9 months trying to get out of the vagina, and the rest of his life trying to get back in!
2007-04-02 13:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by runwith_thebulls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in my exp., if the male feels intimitated in any sort of way i.e. she's beautiful; it happens, could be cuz u r not in love w/ her; that is a possibility.
Don't think on "am I going to please her,will she like what I do"? type of stuff, that'll definately make u lose it.
Give her @ least 1 full on orgasm b-4, you think about going in the woods. See if that helps.
2007-04-02 16:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can forsee the future of you being a father at the age of 17 and her being the mother. That's pretty scary and would probably cause your problem.
2007-04-02 14:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worrie... everyone at some point does this.
Most likely your not the only one... she maybe as well
someone hasn't done it before feels the pleasure and guilt.
If this is the one... and when ur ready you have no fear.
Dont do it... b/c u feel you have to. do it when ur ready
2007-04-02 17:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you're gay and don't really want to have an experience with a girl. And that's totally okay. Don't pressure yourself.
2007-04-02 13:22:56 · answer #9 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get a good friend to do it with you first who is experienced.shell help you . the better the friends u are the easier it will be
2007-04-01 22:48:33 · answer #10 · answered by DJ Vinny The Ginny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋