I know this is really juvenile, but I desperately need opinions?

Question

So, I'm at a freakishly high age to have never been kissed...in my twenties. There's nobody interested in me, and becuase I don't drink, I can't just go somewhere and pick up someone under the influence.

But I need to stop being a freak somehow. I'm planning on just walking up to a guy I've never seen before in broad daylight and frenching him. (Obviously I won't go up to someone who has a woman with him.) If you were that guy, how would you react? Would you go along with it? Should I offer any explanation, or just walk away?

The idea is not to give me a good feeling inside. Believe me, I've tried finding someone, and nothing has worked. The idea is to make it so I don't have to lie about whether I've been kissed or not. At this point, I honestly wouldn't admit it was my first kiss even to the person I thought was my soul mate.

Answer 1

i guess it would be amusing if you just walked up to a guy randomly, but that really won't give you a good feeling, because if that's not the person you really are, and the random guy likes you for someone you're not, things will turn out pretty bad. the first kiss is something you should be treasuring all your life, and if you're going to waste it on a random guy, think again. Don't say there's nobody interested in you. You just havne't found the right guy. Look again. Go on match.com or go through a dating program. Take a vacation, get to know people, organize parties for your whole neighborhood, do something social.

Answer 2

for someone in their twenties who has never had a kiss.. i would sugest a day of pampering. go to a spa, get your eyebrows done, get a facial, go get your hair styled and make up done. maybe have a little shopping spree and try on cute/sexy clothes (nothing that screams "i'm looking for a one night stand" however :P) it will boost your confidence at the end of the day and you will probably look much more presentable.
the little makeover should help cast some eyes your way whether you're at school, work, out, etc. for guys that already know/know-of you, they will say in their minds "wow she looks so different/great" and for strangers, they might say "i wonder if she's single" :P
its a great start to getting into the dating scene! good luck, even if you don't follow my advice :)

p.s. as far as frenching a stranger, i do NOT suggest it! i had a friend who did that because she went out of her mind with hormones raging and ended up becoming a slut lol. the idea is to get a love life, not become the town whore :x (besides, what if the guy has STD's??)

edit: well, if it's a kiss you're looking for, and not a mate, then go anywhere, make eye contact with a guy and smile, and if he responds then start flirting and things should go on from there :P or as dr. phil suggests. "try your luck on match.com" lol

Answer 3

Hi! While I understand why you would be feeling that way, I don't think that's such a good idea, if only simply for the fact that you don't know what was just in his mouth before your tongue. haha!

I really think that you shouldn't be worrying about never being kissed. In my opinion, kisses should be special, and you shouldn't kiss for nothing else than to just kiss. I never got my first kiss until I was 18, which is also when I had my first (and current) adult relationship (I say it that way because I "went out" with a guy for a week in jr. high--we did nothing but hold hands for 5 mins so most people tell me that doesn't count as far as being a first boyfriend lol). Anyways, I wasn't as old as you at the time, but 18 was still later than most of my friends' first kisses, let alone first boyfriends, but I'm happy with the fact that my first kiss was something special.

But why do you feel like a freak in the first place--because of your own feelings, or because other people are getting on your case for it? Like I said before, I can understand your feelings, but unless you have people nagging on you about it, I don't think it should really be a problem. And if other people are nagging you about it, then they need to grow up because like it says in your headline, I do think it is a little juvenile of them to be teasing you about it.

Answer 4

read the advice columns in newspapers. those usually have all the details on how to meet a person. but stop calling yourself a freak! btw if u walked up to a random guy and just kissed him then i grant u full permission to call urself a freak. but unkissed ppl feel like u at ANY age. me, 4 example. anyway, dont feel so bad. and the rite person will turn up sumtime, if u just give them a chance. good luck with wutever u decide

Answer 5

I understand your frustration but don't you think you should wait for someone you actually care about?
And you know, love doesn't fall from the sky, you need to make it happen!
Join some clubs to meet people who share your interests, don't stay locked up at home, try to meet interesting people.
You might be surprised - there's someone out there for you!

(oh, and I'm not a guy, but if a guy did that to me, he'd get seriously kicked somewhere)

Answer 6

How about posting your profile on an online dating service? You can meet the guys, they are less likely to be serial killers, and you are very likely to be kissed.

Forget the walking up to a stranger idea.

Answer 7

I would be freaked out if someone started randomly frenching (french kissing) me.

Answer 8

join some hobby clubs where guys might be. dont ever be shy around them but dont be crazy either. just be mature and be yourself and they will come. the right one always comes.

Answer 9

go for it

Answer 10

wow... you have courage.. i would do it...