so i'm fairly attractive.. at least that is what a lot of guys have told me... and i'm smart... but most of all i am Really caring and sweet.. if i have a guy that likes me i think the world of him and i am the kind of person who would think up creative thoughtful things for him.. like on a special occasion.. to let him know how much i Know him and how much he means to me... but maybe i am too caring, because this guy i just had ended it with me for this other girl who is not that caring at all.. she changed him for the Worst too... and with me he was Himself... she is whinny and complains all the time and makes him do stuff all the time too. i don't understand. also she asked him to our last dance with a Piece of Paper... that she made in my English class in a matter of like an hour. I don't understand WHY he ended it with someone like me. (btw his excuse was that he didn't like the feeling of being with someone who was smarter and better looking than he was- which i Never acted like)
2007-03-25 10:31:20 · 18 answers · asked by sweetaction 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You would be my dream girl if I were looking for one :). I already have one though...
Anyway, many boys/men have egos that are very easily threatened and having a girl/woman with the traits you describe would definitely threaten such a guy, even if you didn't act superior. If he feels that you are superior and his ego isn't well balanced, then it shouldn't surprise you that he would go for someone he isn't threatened by.
Lots of women "dumb down" to fit in with men who are less than secure. You would be doing yourself a disservice if you did that. The key for you is to be you and to find someone who values your good looks, intelligence, and caring nature. Be thankful that he recognized you were too good for him. If he thought that, he was probably right.
2007-03-25 10:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by TAMAJ13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is difficult for a guy to have to be switched on all the time, and perhaps he does not have to quite so alert with the other girl.
Think about it, the more effort you put into being caring and doing special things for him might make him feel special, or it might make him feel inadequate like he has to keep remembering to do stuff for you to feel equal. So in the end all your hard efforts just make him feel bad, instead of good like you intended.
If he is with a whining girl who does not make an effort, it may be that he is prepared to put up with that so he can relax and have his guard down, more than he could put up with feeling inadequate all the time.
2007-04-02 09:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know - this may be a short-lived relationship and he may want to start daing you again. In the meantime, let yourself date other guys and see if they appreciate you - good luck! Guys do like smarter and better looking so don't change a thing.
2007-04-02 17:16:33 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loving cant be too much especially when its reciprocated.i don't think he changed when he got with her be was already that way-its just the opposite for some guys too they like the bad girl m.o.dont take it out on yourself -that right guy will Cherish you and give back what you are willing to give. good luck these guys are hard to find look in your church.organizations that may interest you who like the same type of things you do
2007-03-25 17:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old boyfriend was a jerk. I would kill for a girl like you. Not litterally. I had 2 gf's in my life then my friend has had 2 gf's this month. I would love it. Can u give me ur email adresss or screen name on aim so we can talk about that kinda stuff. i need someone to talk to and i am embarrassed to tell my friends or parents. i need someone who has had tthe same probolem as me.
MY EMAIL rock4life68@aim.com
MY AIM S/N rock4life68
2007-03-25 17:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys like the chase. If you make yourself too available, it's not fun for them. It's sad, but the less you care in a relationship, the more power you have.
2007-03-25 17:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he obviously doesn't have a good taste in girls..
Maybe he likes that agressive-ness from a girl.. For some guys , that is quite a turn-on.. as odd as it sounds
Oh well.. keep being yourself.. Guys who don't appreciate you for who you are just aren't worth it anyway.. You'll find someone later on.. Enjoy your friends :)
2007-03-25 17:35:49 · answer #7 · answered by MeganElizabeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be that one special guy, who may not be there right now, but you will find him without trying and he will love you for who you are.
2007-03-25 17:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone has their diffrent tastes you need to find a guy that likes the type of girl you are and forget about this gut because he is not worth your time
2007-04-02 17:18:30 · answer #9 · answered by Angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he don't have good taste, but that's OK your will find someone that love you for you and when that happen that boy that left you for someone else will not forgive himself.
2007-04-02 17:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋