he deletes mine and my friends comments if they have anything to do with me or say anything about a "girlfriends" i asked his why and he could really answer until he asked me why my comments are hidden and i said cuz there my business and he said well then that why i delete urs and he could say anything about the whole being single thing we have been together 4 yrs what should i do? what should i say? what should i think?
anything?
2007-03-25 10:15:53 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump. Him.
BEFORE he gives you fleas.
2007-03-25 10:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by Biff 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! Its already over between the two of you. If a guy truely loved you, he would proudly have your comments on there and he would say he's in a relationship. Also, the fact that he has never given you his own answer to why he deletes your comments and why his relationship status says he's single, it tells you that he's hiding something from you. I think after four years in a relationship is really long and I think he might have started to fall out of love already. His actions on myspace point that out obviously. He could be trying to look for new girls on myspace.
So, yeah just dump this guy because he's a sorry loser for not taking the initiative to break up with you. You dont deserve to be treated like this, find someone better.
2007-03-25 10:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by =P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is not straightforward with showing he doesn't want you and actions sometimes speak louder than words. I say, move on and don't make him want you- it should just come easy for him.
A very similar situation like this sparked up between this guy and his girlfriend on MySpace.com except with an ironic ending. I know this guy's behavior extremely well, so listen: He had proclaimed her as his girl for a while (6 months or so) and they were commenting on each other's profiles and pics in a very luvy duvy manner. However, I don't know what happened (fights or whatnot) but while she was still commenting in that same luvy duvy fashion this over half a year later, he started to delete her comments from his pics and the front page messages w/ no responses apparent to her comments (and her profile was hidden so I don't know if he was commenting on hers this time or not). I didn't even see her on his friends' list anymore. Then, a two-four month period went by with nothing that I could see between them, but then he brought her up out of the blue as his girlfriend again on another site called Bolt2.com This entire time he was flirting with me and wanted to hang on to me.
If the above applies to you and your bf then it may be that he's trying to hide you from other girls but may very well still have feelings for you...and is pending on hanging on to you. Who knows? Maybe you should ask him persistently but do it calmly and without any hint of biasness. Don't use "you" a lot in accusation-like manner. Just gently ask as this will be more effective in getting answers.
2007-03-25 10:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by GoldPenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why "hidden comments"? I think you just might be getting at him if you do that. Why don't you want anyone else to see your comments?
We have two computers at home both Nertworked. I have a parter of 13 years and ...... If he wants to go downstairs and get on the net and message/chat to people whether male or female that's fine with me.
I also do my own thing on my computer and I also message/chat to him while he is downstairs on his. I can type "who are you messaging" .... he will say Gail, Barbara whoever and I'll run downstairs and say "Ohhhh tell her I said hi".
I have met many many of his "friends" while touring around (we play in a band), and they are all wonderful people. Met twelve at a time once, even had a couple of people that pass our way staying the night, invited to birthday parties etc.
Mind you, he does have a couple of chatters that I don't know about ..... but hey that's life.
Let him go do his thing .......... it might be his way of getting rid of some of the stress you are causing him.
2007-03-25 10:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years?And he's announcing in public he's single? challenge him; more than you have done.After four years, ask him where this relationship is going; ask him if he prefers to be single; you have been an accepted part of his life for that long; why is he playing fantasy games on Myspace?
Don't let him away with this; if he doesn't come up with an answer you are happy with, then look seriously at what you are prepared to put up with from a man
2007-03-25 10:37:03 · answer #5 · answered by marie m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been together for 4yrs and your b/f deletes your comments on myspace, maybe thats his way of being the other him. If he doesn't want to deal with a g/f on myspace, let him have some fun. But if you find out hes meeting chicks on myspace, cut him loose!
2007-03-25 10:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by diva90221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion is you both need to go your own ways. If he was proud to have you as a g/f then he should be telling this to the world and not that he is single. To be in a relationship you both need to be open with each other and by hiding your comments then i think the trust has gone and with it any hope of continuing with each other.
2007-03-25 10:21:41 · answer #7 · answered by Taryn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really? Wow, I can't imagine that! What are the possible reasons he wouldn't want someone to know he was your BF? Any reason he can come up with spells deception. I would certainly ask him if he were ashamed of me, and if he didn't want the world to know that we were a couple then perhaps we shouldn't be a couple. However, if being kept a secret is ok with you, because you don't want to lose him, well that's your decision.
2007-03-25 10:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by TAMAJ13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he had to make you feel guilty....... He doesnt seem like a truthful guy! I would say BREAK UP with him........ if hes single on myspace then when nelse is he single???? Think about it.... you know the truth but you dont want to give up on him! The break up might be painful but it may save a lifes worth ofr trouble with this guy!!!! I hope things go good!!!!!!
2007-03-25 10:28:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get yourself some really sexy pictures done and create a naughty myspace page. Say your single and up for some fun and watch all the friends you gain and comments you get. Then watch him look sick as a parrot when he sees it!
I think if this doesn't wake him up then ditch the bas tard.
2007-03-25 10:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Hot British Guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is denying he is in a relationship then he is up to no good - you have to decide if you are prepared to throw away 4 years or waste another how ever many years!! Personally I would get shot of someone who claimed they were single when I had given them 4 years of my life.
2007-03-25 10:20:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋