I slept with a guy from work last and this weekend, he kept me around all weekend just hanging out until I came home today, he asked me over tonight so I agreed but later decided not to.
Before I could say I wasn't interested he sent a text saying if I went over it would be getting serious, he cannot get together with anyone right now and he isn't over his ex.
I didn't want a relationship with him and I made this clear to him; he was the one who seemed interested in more. So I feel like I was totally played and worry about how he and his friends I work with will think of me.
I gave him the chance to reject me when I didn't even want him, so I feel as angry with myself as I am angry at him for making me feel like a fool when it is him who has lost out and is foolish for still being into his ex who showed herself as far from stable.
How do I deal with him & his friends at work?
How do I show I didn't expect anything more from him?
2007-03-25 10:08:03 · 23 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I sent him a text, nothing negative just saying that I knew he was still into his ex and that I was not interested in anything more as he implied I wanted.
At work I plan to treat him and his friends as always, it just bothers me no end that they are going to think I'm a total fool after this, sure I got myself into this however this should reflect badly on him not me.
2007-03-25 10:08:50 · update #1
And no, I will NOT be so low as to bad-mouth him, his performance or his genitals – as tempting as it is to hint that towards him I'm not that sort of person, besides he needs to see I'm not a nut-job and how stupid he is to go after his psycho ex.
2007-03-25 11:40:40 · update #2
Dont worry sooooooooooo
For whatever reason, neither of you want it to go any further. If hes implied that you did, then thats his problem not yours. Doesnt matter what he says at work....if you honestly didnt want anything more than a casual thing, then forget all about it. He'll look the fool if gossips about you at work.
2007-03-25 10:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by hollyb20 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it reflect negatively on either of you? He was honest, you understood. He may not have realized the depth of how he was feeling until after you were together. But he didn't just string you along and use you. He can't help that he has feelings for the unstable girl still. But don't let him keep doing the revolving thing between you and her either.
I'd try to take a private moment when you see him next. Tell him that you understand what he's going through and that you want to make sure you two are still friends. No hard feelings. And then treat him normally.
2007-03-25 10:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by bluefrog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you were played. Been there, and its a horrible experience. Listen, if he or his friends give you a hard time or say anything to you, even so much as a glare, make sure you let him/them know what a lousy F he was and that he has a little D. And, also make sure that you never ever get sucked into this type of relationship again. There is nothing worse than being used. However, aren't you glad you found out now, instead of having this go on for much longer, when you really started to care? Learn from your mistakes, and don't make them again. Good luck.
2007-03-25 10:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were only interested in the sex what does it matter? If you didn't have the finer feelings you wouldn't care - you would just be high off the f--k and not give him a second thought. The best way to deal with this is to send a text saying it;s fine and you didn't want anything serious anyway. Say that you want to just be normal with one another if thats ok? Hope this has helped you!
2007-03-25 10:50:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your approach is exactly the right one to take. Hold your head up high girl. Have it in your mind that you used him for a bit of fun - not the other way around! Don't worry about what him and his friends are thinking - let em get on with it. You are young free and single - not hooked on his ex like he is. Just make sure you practice safe sex though - that is important. We all get hooked up with a wrong un every now and again - put it down as experience. x
2007-03-25 10:15:21 · answer #5 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be a bit cold towards him. If his friends hint to anything happening between you two, just ignore it.
Silence is usually the hardest to take. Just pretend like he's someone you don't even know, nor you want to get to know him better.
A piece of advice - don't mess with people at work. It always backfires somehow.
2007-03-25 10:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you texted him to say that it was not a problem and you didnt want anything more anyhow then leave it at that. Sounds like he felt rejected and added in his bit at the end (with his text)! lol .........
just carry on as usual at work and around him etc although if i were you i would be more choosey in future.
2007-03-25 10:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK girl i got played before so it happens to every girl so don't trip OK go to work and play him think of something real mean to say if he start laughing with his friends then start acting like your having a good time laughing with your girlfriends then he will fill that your over him
2007-03-25 10:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by cuttygurl2009 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so what you need to do is flip the script, make it seem like you played him! and if h wanna go around and say what he did to you. you gonna have 2 do a lil high school bit and say that yeah u was trynna get your cootchie playd with but wen u seen his 2 inch dic* it wasnt no hel to you no way. Then, you'd be the one playin him & dissin his rep @ work.
2007-03-25 10:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to ignore this situation as if nothing happened. If you keep worrying and talking about it, you are showing your weakness to him and his friends. It's hard, but try concentrate on other things.
2007-03-25 10:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋