Ok so my boyfriend tells me that he loves me and cares about me. But when ever i c him other than at school he never wants 2 b really close 2 me. He was at my house last night for a campfire and i was sitting really close 2 him and talkin 2 him alot but he didnt seem that into me! He is always telling me that he loves me and cares about me so much more than anyone hes ever cared about. I feel like that for him but how do i tell if he REALLY cares about me?
2007-03-25 10:04:35 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why does everygirl ask this queston? Its like they cant trust there bf
2007-03-25 10:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Is he saying those things to you on the phone, in emails and text messages? Just remember, communications like these are not always real. It's the face to face stuff that counts.
If he is acting shy around you in person, then perhaps he is insecure with his manlyhood. What I would do is make sure all serious conversations regarding feelings are made face to face. And, if his behavior continues, then look at his actions rather than what he tells you. Good luck.
2007-03-25 17:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. I had an ex like that and he always TOLD me how much he loved me but he never SHOWED me. Honestly, I don't think this guy even knows what real love is. I'm not sure you do either but you at least seem to have a better idea of it if you don't. However, I do believe that he believes he loves you. Trust your insticts though... when a guy really loves you, his actions will let you know. You will feel like this: 'He could never tell me he loves me and I would still always know he does'!!!! Believe me, when you find one who does, you'll know he does.
2007-03-25 17:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says he does voluntarily, I think he really does. If he is saying that since you are asking if he loves you or not, he may be just saying that to get you off his back. Everyone shows his/hers emotions differently and he may not be that touchy touchy guy. He also may have something on this mind. The important thing is he is spending some time with you. Don't worry about it too much since if you keep worrying about this, you will end up annoying this guy. Just enjoy every moment and let things happen.
2007-03-25 17:09:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love takes time. If you are very young, still living at home, not out of college, not at an age of understanding what love truly is. I would say at least be ready for anything. That word shoots out the mouth of so many, but not many knows the depths of love.
You cant.
2007-03-25 17:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by EyeKneadPoints 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to tell w/some guys. Usually if he really loves you, he will stand up for you, do little things for you once in awhile. Some guys aren't into physical contact, so they show their love in other ways. I think actions speak louder than words, though. People can say anything, but they usually only do stuff for those they really appreciate.
2007-03-25 17:08:09 · answer #6 · answered by Smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u'r doing a little chasing, stop it. when u stop chasing him and just be a little more casual with him, then if he starts giving u the attention u feel u need, then a good chance that he does care 4 u. if he doesn't, it could be something totally different from what u'r thinking in the 1st place, he could just have stuff on his mind.
just stop being so needy and clingy. luv who u r, then luv will find u.
2007-03-25 17:16:19 · answer #7 · answered by cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what matters more is how you feel about him.
it sounds like you are still young and this will just be a boyfriend for now and then something will happen and you'll break up and then you'll meet someone else...
don't be in a rush...
life is long and full of wonderful and painful experiences.
keep looking around and seeing what you are attracted to... it may not be him in that moment... it may be him in another. same with him about you.
2007-03-25 17:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by Markiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I wouldn't break up with him. Unless you don't want him anymore....keep him. Maybe there's something that you're doing that he doesn't like. Maybe he's the kind of person that is shy. I don't want to say this but...maybe he isn't into you. Maybe you'll find another person one day that is better than him that appriciates you more. Maybe...try telling him that you want to feel appriciated. Do extra things for him or just act normal Maybe you should leave it be for now. Maybe you should tell him that you want to feel him closer to you sometimes. My advice is to leave to things they way they are..and try to enjoy yourself while you still have him.
2007-03-25 17:13:42 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never want a man to tell me he loves me until I can already feel it. Too many people overuse the word that it has lost it's true effect. If you think his actions contradict his words, most likely he does not love you as he says.
2007-03-25 17:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by fickle™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
..he is lying, if he really loved u as he claims, he would stay with u anywhere, anytime, anyhow, and not be crowd conscious!yet, if de reason about such behavior is dat he is shy, u could have known by now, or he should let u know, or, just ask him.wid guys, u have 2 ask straightaway, or you'll waste ur life thinking dis,dat,...
2007-03-25 18:25:19 · answer #11 · answered by Kiara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋