My grandmother got beaten up in a nursing home and nobody cares?

Question

My grandmother had two black eyes,, it looks like someone punched her in the face. we asked her but shes not all there mentally.. My Mom has called both my aunt and uncle and said its urgent they try to take her to a nursing home by them and help,, they both laughed it off and told my mom she probably fell down and have no interest in even looking at my grandma.
We have no money, they both have over 1 million dollars..
Why do they not care?

She also had her jewlery stolen, and two other ladies on her floor has two black eyes as well, we told our relatives that and they laughed that off as well and offered no help.

Answer 1

Call the police in on this and the director of the hospital. Sounds like a few people need to be fired.
Elderly abuse is a crime in or out of a nursing home. ESPECIALLY when they are in a nursing home when you are trusting these people to give your grandma the care that can not be provided by her family.
Call a lawyer if you don't get the results you find satisfying. I'm sure you will find one to take the case. A lawyer may even be able to direct you to someone who specializes in this sort of thing. These people need to be stopped.
I am so sorry this happened to your grandma.

Answer 2

There should ne a bulletine board in the lobby of the nursing home with the name and phone number of the representative for the nursing home residents. I worked in a place like that and my guess is that one of the nursing assistants stole the jewelry. Where I worked the aids stole the lights right off the residents christmas tree the day after it was put up. I know aids that stole old ladies wedding rings with in a week of their moving in! ALso call the police as soon as possible so they can file a report before the bruises heal. They will need to take pictures.

Answer 3

Check the blue pages in your phone book. Contact a state representative and see what can be done. What's going on with your grandmother is called "elder abuse," and it's a serious crime. The nursing home needs to be called to account on this.

And tell your folks I said so - my mum works in a nursing home, and I've done temp work at one. This is TOTALLY not acceptable. The only bruise I *ever* saw on a patient at ForestView was a woman who was having a nightmare and fell off her bed - she had a bruise about the size of a nickel on her arm, and when she fell out, somebody was there IMMEDIATELY to ensure she was all right and put her back in bed. Two black eyes? That's one heck of a fall, if you ask me.

Seriously . . . document your grandmother's injuries (take pictures, if you can), and then contact your local representative. If you live in Pennsylvania (only state I have info for, sorry), there's actually a special department you can call (it'll be listed in the blue pages) with these concerns, and they will NOT brush you off. It's their job to ensure that stuff like this doesn't happen.

You'll be in my thoughts.

Answer 4

In every county around the country there is something like this. My father belongs to it in Idaho, and there it is Area Agency on Aging. If you call the local Chamber of Commerce in your grandmother's area they should be able to direct you to that agency, and whatever name it happens to go by. They will check into it.

I think a lot of people don't want to see the bad in people, especially care givers, but the problem with a lot of nursing homes is the fact they don't require trained nurses to care give. Which they should. Our nation is very shorthanded...and most nursing homes are in it for the bottom line. But seriously check out the local Area Agency on Aging, or aging services, or whatever it is called. They care. Very much!

Answer 5

I'm sorry this happened to your grandma. It is really sad. Maybe she did fall down, it is possible. Could have been some kind of accident. It would be impossible to prove if it was abuse or accident. Have you taken her to a doctor? Maybe there are other things being done to her if it is abuse. I know you grandmother is not all there mentally you said. Is it at all possible she could come and live with you guys? It might be difficult caring for her, but it might be possible. She would be better off with people who love her. Take her to a doctor and find out if she might have been abused either way. Take care. I wish you all luck

Answer 6

If they don't care, it's sad, but you can't compel them to care about somebody.

Get an investigation going against the nursing home. Maybe they'll take you more seriously if they see YOU'RE taking it seriously.

But I will say, don't jump to conclusions. If you don't have proof that she was hit (black eyes do come from other sources, like an injured nose) and it can't be pinned on any likely attacker, you'll have to get enough info to get people looking into it.

Check, is she clean? well-fed? good skin condition?

Does she get exercise or physical therapy?

What about her mental/emotional needs? Even people who are pretty incompetent due to Alzheimer's or dementia or whatever still have needs.

Do what you can--elder abuse is a horrible thing, and it may be up to you to stop it. I'm sorry you don't have more support, but you should take yourself seriously enough to get help and get justice.

Answer 7

You need to call the POLICE...NOW!

Elder abuse is a serious crime--if you just let this go, what about the next victim at the nursing home?

a few years ago, an aide was stealing money from an elderly patient whom she thought was "out of it". The old lady was quietly watching her, writing notes, and was going to let her children know. The rotten aide found the notes, and stabbed the poor old lady to death. During the trial it came out that she had been robbing and beating patients for years.

THERE! DO IT CALL THE COPS!

Answer 8

Jett,

Whether your grandmother was beaten by workers or other patients OR whether it was injury due to an accident, the nursing home was negligent in providing security and/or care.

There are a number of attorneys you can contact that deals with these specific issues. Normally, one does not need money to hire these folks.

Far as your aunt and uncle are concerned, they seem like cold uncaring people. Money notwithstanding, people like that usually get whats coming to them later in life...what comes around goes around.

Answer 9

Call the police and tell them exactly what you told us here. What you are describing is a crime. Start with the cops. If that doesn't work, call your State or District Attorney's office for more advice. If that doesn't work, call your state's office of the Attorney General. Finally, if THAT doesn't work, call an attorney of your own.

If what you say is true, then odds are you won't have to go any further than your local police department for help.

Good luck!

Answer 10

Hi--:)
I care
Im glad you care for your poor grandma.
If nobody is gonna take the time to even look at her, then you need to be there for her and take good care fo her while you still have time with her.
She's old.

After you spend a little time with her.
Go tell it off on your mama and auntie.
If that happened to me, i would yell at them for being immature, irresponsible, uncaring, and not doing what they're suppose to be doing.
They're grownups for goodness sakes.
Why arent they taking responsibly?
TALK to both of them.

Its not a funny matter, in fact, its dangerous and serious.
It might even needs to be taken up in court.
Then call police and explain everything.

Then talk ot people in nursing home who might have seen what happened.
Good luck and i hope your grandma is okay