Should I stay or should I go?

Question

I am 31 years old and I have a 7 year old son. I am currently living with my family. My mother constantly critisizes me about everything and it seems like I am only in the house to provide more money. I gave my parents custody of my son about 3 years ago so that he would be provided better insurance and opportunities. I am so emotional lately and unhappy with the way I am treated by my mom that I am seriously thinking of moving in with a friend. I would still come by and spend time with my son but with out the stress of living with my mom! What should I do-suck it up at home or get out before I go deeper into depression?!

By the way, I do have a good job with benefits, parents won't give me back custody, and I originaly moved back in with them to help them with things because of theyre health conditions. I have been blamed for my fathers heart conditions because I make the wrong desisions in life.

FYI, for you all out there I am not a lesbian, I was handeling raising my child fine and still do. My childs father was killed in Iraq, No I didnt have him out of wedlock and my job is very well paying with great benefits so money or having a screwed up life isnt the issue.

Answer 1

Talk to your mom first and explain how you are feeling. If she tries to do better stay,, if she stays the same or gets worse move out.
Best if you could live on your own anyway.

Answer 2

Maybe you did disappoint your parents tremendously (you dont' mention anything about the child's father, for example, and that sounds like a bad story...)
If I were you, I'd make it a win-win situation. I'd do everything I could to help my mother and father, including being the daughter you know they want - you know, the one who makes good decisions. Ask them what they think are good decisions and then follow their counsel!
Why the hell would you move in with a friend? Then the primary care for you child would be your parents - and you would have proven to them that once again, they have to take care of your responsibility. What friend? If it's a woman, there could always be the suspicion that you're a lesbo! If it's a guy, there would be the suspicion that you're settling for a live-in situation with someone who's not willing to make a commitment to you. There's just no justification from retreating from what are the average every day demands of raising your child - something your parents have already lived through, by the way, and are doing again!
If you sat down with your parents to talk about what they want for you and your son, their goals would seem mighty modest to most of the world. They want you and your son to be taken care of, they want you to be able to handle all the unexpected things that unfortunately happen in everyone's life and that means having security and savings. You have a good job now but perhaps they see that as temporary and they know that if you were laid off, you would be right back where you are right now, just for the benefit of your son.
They are probably in their 50s or 60s and they have custody of a 7 year old! They have responsibility because they stepped in when you needed someone to take responsiblity. Does your son see a dentist, eat regularly, have a stable home to come home to, go to the same school each year, see a family physician? Thank them for that; if it had been you taking sole care of him when he was a toddler, maybe that wouldn't be the situation today!
I'm sorry to be so harsh. Maybe your mother is the witch from hell with her criticisms but remember, she already lived through the year of being 31 and when she was 31, she had you. She has been there - how do you know she didn't make a difficult decision in her life to be boring dependable mom just for the sake of the well-being of her family?
Look for a suitable mate - for God's sake, make it a guy; give up being a lesbian if you are one (that lifestyle goes nowhere, especially when children are involved...), think about goals and have a reasonable social life. Your parents have been helping you - even you can't deny that. Seek therapy if you feel like your problem is depression, not just average sullen boredom. Think about what your child has to gain from a stable home life and keep that as your goal. Think of your job as a career and save your money. One day, you will be their age. And your child will be in your role!

Answer 3

u probably should stay since your son is still a little boy and he needs u to be with him,but if it gets to the point that u can't handle it go because if u stay it might lead to suicide!
but 4 your sons own good u may want to stay just 4 his sake
but if it gets out of hand talk to your son about it and have him tell u what he wants

and if your life is in good condition,get custody back for your son its important that you're with him
get a job just enough to get food 4 u and your son and a apartment or house
whatever u do don't leave your son to live somewhere else
oh yeah! get child support from the father of your son
have faith in yourself get a job,food,house or apartment,money and live happy!
it may be hard but its worth it! as long as your son is happy
please watch a movie called "the pursuit of happiness"
this movie shows u how a father does everything to get his son a happy life! its very good 4 u to watch! he has no home no money NOTHING but he still fights for his son
do the same! and be a good mother please i beg u don't leave him! THAT'S your son he loves u thats your blood



think about it

Answer 4

What good are you going to be to your son if you are not healthy? You shouldn't just leave though that could cause problems with your parents and feelings of abandonment in your son. You need to sit down with your mother and talk to her about what is going on, about how she is making you feel maybe she doesn't realize what she is doing.Make sure that you set up a legal agreement also that you may visit your son when ever you like that way they can't tell you that you can't see him. In the end if you will be better off (healthier) than yes you should go. Make sure that you do see your son everyday if it is possible and go to a doctor to see if there is anything that can be done.

Answer 5

If your life is in good condition, get custody of your son back.
Move out.
Get child support from the father of your child.
Find a good paying job with benefits.
Stop depending on your mother and father and family
You are old enough to make it on your own.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

Move out but always attend to your sons need when your around him. It's hard to have a depressing life and somebody's on your way. Carry on.

Answer 8

you need some structure in your life it's amazing how getting up in the morning and going to work and coming home with a positive attitude will change your life and everyones around you, remmember you can only run from your life so long before it catches up to you and bites you in the *** ,, so without you having your head together nothing will ever seem right

Answer 9

Move out.