he wants to beome a catholic and goes to a catholic school. he has been told he can not become a ctholic because of our beleifs. is this true? this is disgusting if so.
2007-03-25 09:05:39 · 38 answers · asked by vikki b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you are right, if it is true, it is disgusting.
as a protestant, i do now that most protestant churches do not have the same opinion.
2007-03-25 09:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not true. It may be a friend or some other misinformed person who told him this. Sometimes, non-Catholics come to have their child baptized Catholic and this can cause problems...but that's a different thing. When you baptize a child into the faith you vow before God that you'll raise that child Catholic. If you are not Catholic and do not fully understand the faith, it would be impossible for you to truly raise them in the Catholic faith.
This may be where the misunderstanding has come from.
He can become Catholic. He needs to talk to a priest to find out what needs to be done. He'll need to attend RCIA or RCIC depending on his age.
The Catholic church would never turn away anyone with a true desire to seek God and receive the sacraments.
2007-03-25 09:19:35 · answer #2 · answered by Misty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your avi. and SN indicate you are a woman, and the use of the phrase "Me and my partner" indicates that you either prefer women, are in a long term non binding relationship or both.
which ever of these is correct is by most accounts against the tenets of Catholicism so I think that is part of their issue also since by their faith they see you as 'living in sin' and as such would not provide the support structure within the church, also alot of Catholic rites/sacriments require the participation of the parents.
Knowing your son's age would help, but if you say he is already in a Catholic School I would have him ask around of the faculty what it would require to officially join the faith, and he can work toward that goal,continue/start attending services and then once he reaches 18 and you are no longer part of the package he would be elligable to recieve the sacriments.
I personally don't judge on Sexual preference, It was one of the reasons why I faded from the faith.
2007-03-25 09:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by janssen411 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not mention how old your son is.
If he is under the age of reason (generally, eight or so), then the Church holds that he is beholden to you for religious instruction. I am gay, so please know I'm not bashing you, but your lifestyle (I am assuming is homosexual from 'partner') does preclude you from raising your son formally as a Catholic.
If your son is over the age of reason and the Church will not welcome him, then they are in error. However, instead of fighting with the people who do not know their Catechism, see if you can find a Catholic family willing to be his Godparents, and thus take the responsibility for his spiritual upbringing in the Catholic Church.
Some Churches may feel that so long as the child is beholden to the parent, then the child is beholden to the parent's religious teachings, and may decline his membership until such time as he is able to attend church freely and entirely on his own, either as a later teen or even as a grown adult. If the local Catholic church is of this pursuasion, see if you can at least facilitate your child's participation in the Mass, even if you do not yourself agree with it.
In short -- do not let people keep your child from following his heart. Even if he cannot have formal recognition, he can still go and worship all the same.
2007-03-25 09:19:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholic parents are usually required to bring up their children in accordance with the catholic church.
Parents who are non catholic are required to promise to bring up their children in the catholic way and attend Church once a week for approx 6 months if they expect the Church to educate your child and should the child wish to be confirmed in the catholic faith.
It's an agreement that can be negotiated or not with the local Church Priest.
PS Your child can still believe in God without the Catholic Religion, - they do not have the monopoly you know.
2007-03-25 09:11:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jewel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to become a catholic he can but as his parents you are asked to guide him. You can see a local priest and ask his opinion as some are more laid back than others and would welcome your son into their church regardless of what you and your partner believe. Catholic schools have to take so many non catholics in every year as along as they live in the catchment area so it is possible he could go to a catholic school whether he is catholic or not.
2007-03-25 09:13:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a peer pressure thing. He is likely getting told that he is bound for hell a lot.
No kid likes getting picked on for being different from the crowd.
Why is he in a Catholic school? It seems a bit odd.
2007-03-25 09:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by U-98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid i don't know much about Catholicism, however that does not seem right to me. I suggest you speak to your local catholic priest or school about it, i'm sure they can help.
Well done for even entertaining this possibility, most parents wouldn't bother.
Also please don't be offended by the idiotic answers you are bound to receive to a good question like this one! Many of us use this site properly and the experience is ruined by a small minority of immature idiots
2007-03-25 09:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by emma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids at catholic school also and they welcome converts. If your son is serious and old enough to attend classes himself no problem. If he is of an age where you would have to take him, then see what is involved and how it would impact on the rest of your family. The school may also be prepared to help if they know he is serious about it and that whilst you dont share the belief you would support his decision.
2007-03-25 11:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by worriedmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the Catholic church may be reluctant to jump in between a son and parent. I am sure they will feel different when he is older.
2007-03-25 09:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on who told you this. Depending on your son's age, the person who told him this likely wants your son to have Catholic support at home.
However, this is just my opinion. You might want to consult a priest on the matter.
2007-03-25 09:09:04 · answer #11 · answered by Nowhere Man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋