I've always known what I wanted, but my friends that are dating keep pressuring me and I don't wanna be pressured!!! Like, "When are you gonn ask her out or pop the question?" I really don't like to play games and I think you should 'really' know someone before you start dating. Am I too serious? I also think you should be able to drive. Besides, I need to keep my grades up and whenever I start spending a lot of time with a girl that I really like, my grades start to drop. I don't know! I've gotten the, "Why don't you have a job or a girlfriend?" from my friends and I'm 15... I have to get a summer job though, so... Is it bad to start dating at 16??? I'm so confused...
2007-03-25 08:52:05 · 25 answers · asked by ×ithurtsogoodØ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You sound like you've got a good head on your shoulders. You know what your priorities are...but I think you need to loosen up a bit. It's certainly not bad to start dating at 16, though. If you're not ready, that's perfectly fine/
2007-03-25 08:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by :) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there really is no certain age to start dating. No you are not to serious. The right time to date is when you are ready. And you know best when you are ready. You do have some very good points about your grades and stuff. And yes playing games is not a good thing, best to find the girl you know that you want to be with and stick to her, lol I believe that you are doing great and if you feel confused at 16 still then just wait, once you are not confused then you will be able to figure out what you want to do. Just because your friends are out there don't mean that you have too. You know best what you need and want , they don't know. Right?
2007-03-25 09:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooooh ur so sweet.
i personally dont think its bad to start dating at 16. im 16, well 17 in 2 weeks and if never had a date, boyfirend, first kiss or any of that stuff yet but only because i wanted to wait for someone who wasnt a complet jerk and that might sound easy but believe me there r a lot more jerks out there than u would think. and i completely agree with u, i think if u want to focus on ur grades and stuff then thats ur choice and noones buissness. i mean it ur life anyway so why listen to them.
so basically start dating when U r ready and have found the right one.
soo good luck and im sure u'll find someone nice
ps: we like the clever ones, keep up the good grades lol
2007-03-25 09:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always felt the need to have a girlfriend, even before the age of sixteen but there is no correct age to start dating. I feel you are on the right track though, if you are not sure and know you won't put a hundred percent into the relationship, it won't work anyways. It is good to know someone before you start dating them, the older you get, the longer you will wait before you start dating someone you know. You have plenty of time to date in the future, just make sure you are happy, besides your friends probably don't want to be the miserable ones and want to drag you along with them.
2007-03-25 08:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by scheel_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are learning the hard way about peer pressure. But you seem to be getting through it just fine. You must be true to yourself and your belief system. To do something only because someone else tells you it is the cool thing to do is just utterly ridiculous.
Believe me, when you are ready to date, or be sexual, you will know it. Believe me also, women will be turned on to you when you are older because you took control of your life at an early age and worked for your future even before you were an adult. Of course you should have fun and relax, just make a way for to do that, but in a way that YOU are having fun and relaxing.
Me, myself, I am almost 50 years old and I am proud of you and envious of you at the same time. I wish someone would have kicked some sense in me at that age, because I thought high school was a game with my other peers that thought so. Not. And they are long gone and far away and probably just as freaking pissed that they didn't do the "right" thing.
2007-03-25 09:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is wonderful that you want keep your grades up. I am almost 16 and will be able to start dating. I think that as long as you are ready and mature enough then I think it is okay to start dating at 16.
I think that if your grades are dropping when you spend time with a girl you like then either one or two things are happening
1)you are spending too much time and aren't spending enough time studying or
2) You are thinking about her to much. You don't want to obsess over a girl. It's not attractive.
2007-03-25 08:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by !~!JeWeL eLiZeBetH!~! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think the fact that you are worried about it, shows that you are serious. and i like that. i am 16, and i just had my first "date" (if you would even call it that) a little over a week ago. so no, it is not "bad"
i don't think that you necessarily have to be serious before you ask someone out. at least not in a relationship kind of a way. you should probably know a little about the person, but the point of dating, is to get to know someone. and to get to better know someone.
i don't have my license yet, and all of my friends (and my parents) are like, when are you going to get it?????????? so i know how frustrating (and annoying) that can be.
2007-03-26 06:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its not bad at all because when you know the time is right for you so don't let any one say whats best for you and you can decide. You aren't being to serious you are caring about your future which is good and then you will have more to do with your life. You will have money to spend and transport which is good so it will work when your 16.
2007-03-25 09:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're ready, you'll start dating. I think you're not only being good to yourself, but you're also being good to girls that you might date. Here's why....
Unlike alot of men twice your age, you realize that you don't have the time or energy to devote to a relationship. By recognizing this, you won't hurt some poor girl by bailing on her or not giving her the attention she requires. I think you're a very smart guy!
If you are dealing with pressure from your friends, just make light of it. Simply, laugh and tell them that you don't have time for some 'clingy chick' right now. Regarding driving, grin and tell them, 'why should I drive when I've got you guys as my personal Chauffeurs'.
Good luck! :)
2007-03-25 09:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by lola_falula 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to date right away. I didn't start until I was 18. There's no rush to date. High school relationships don't tend to last and it's probably better to get to know someone before you decide you want to date them than ask someone out because they're "hot".
2007-03-25 08:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋